So tired of crying at night | ADHD Information
I am so worn out and tired of being in tears at least once a day. Trevor is on the top of the list for mental health and I have an appointment on monday to change his meds but I am truly tired of this.Everything is a battle and/or argument. He is now destroying stuff when he is mad, he just ripped up a whole school book because I sent him to bed for being rude, yelling and talking back. He just takes off whenever he wants and I have to go look for him or try to catch him before he leaves the driveway.
He just doesn't get it he throws a huge fit, disrupts the whole family yells screams and 2 minuted later he comes down like nothing happened. I am not sure how much more I can take of this. I dont know what to do with him if he doesnt get his way watch out!
Sorry just a little vent there. He is on straterra and it is not working at all any more. any suggestion on meds that can help with these problems.
Impulse control
Decrease hyperness
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Thanks I did some reading and it looks like I am going to ask the DR to try Vyvanse
That sounds like my son too! He bought a new book at the store the other day(I had stopped buying him books for his room because so many are missing pages) and after a time out today I saw bits and pieces of that book all over. He is on Concerta(18mg) for a week now but the dr is upping his dose tomorrow so hopefully it will help. Since on the Concerta, he has stopped running down the street which I'm pleased about because he is much faster than me.
I picked up a beginner yoga dvd to help with the worn down feeling and the crying, I do it before bed and sometimes at quiet time if I need to. Today was a bad day so I told them I was going to the bathroom and sat on my bedroom floor and did the breathing so I could deal with whatever was coming next. It definitely helps, my hubby laughs at me(i'm not flexible at all) but I told him he can stay home with the kids all day and see what happens :)
tmmc39929.8599884259Hi there can i ask what does you son have my daughter who is 5 does the same thing at times i REALLY know how you feel she got medicated for adhd last week , k my daughter doesnt understand conquences or what she has done wrong and is eztreamly imulsive. hun vent away any time
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We have found that the 2 most popular for this are Vyvanse from the adderal family and Concerta from the Ritalin family. There are many others , these seem to be the top 2. There are many Ritalin products including Focalin that is supposed to have less side effects and is only the active isomer within Ritalin like Ritalin lite. Obviously his meds are not working well so it does sound like a change is due. I wish you well and let us know what happens.My son was diagnosed shy of 5 but showed signs as early as 2. He is on concerta AND guanfacine. they work for him like a charm.
My son will be 12 the 27th of June, he is an honor student and well adjusted.
We tried Adderall XR, but didn't help son at all, made him emotional and angry.
Strattera is for the unattentive, NOT hyper or impulsive.
Strattera also has a side effect of depression, my son took it along with the concerta and he wanted to kill himself.
We stopped immediately.
Post how you all make out, we have been in shoes and can help!!
In an odd way, it is nice to learn that I am not the only one who cries at night. The other night it was a heart wrenching sob session about my 4 yr old but that is another story. Strattera did not work for my almost 10 yr old son, Focalin XR is much better. However, it was upsetting to witness this:
He finally completed his star chart (over 140 boxes) a reward system we implemented for good behavior. Took him almost 4 months to fill it in. Goal was a complex Lego kit. Bought it downtown with dad after a great 'take your kid to work day'. Spent the next day and half completing it, totally fixated on. Only to destroy it shortly after finishing it in a fit b/c one of the legs on the ATAT thingee would not move properly. Body shaking sobs, total loss of control. All his hard work down the drain. He could not rein himself in. Took the better part of the morning to resume normal composure.
Recently bought him a 'seascapes' CD to play at night to help him relax, and this seems to help calm him down before he falls asleep.
It's hard to see your child unable to control themselves. I did my best to comfort him but for an hour or so, he was unreachable.
The interesting thing about Trevor is that he can be in a raging fit, throwing stuff yelling crying, and not 5 minutes later acting like it never happened. This drives me nuts because I am just not understanding why he can not see that he was just out of control and seems like nothing happened. My son would do that. He would have a horrified look on his face and
apologize when he "came to."Anyone have any clue how to deal with that? I mean I love him to death but this is getting to be too much! That is interesting I did not know that about straterra. We are going to the DR. later this week. I try to be as calm as possible. It helps him to calm down himself. I also
defend myself - I don't let him connect, I push his hands (etc.) away. I
don't try to contain him - it just makes him work.
It always burns itself out. I don't get angry at him, and I don't talk about
it right away. I always wait a couple of hours before we discuss it.
I also try to catch it before it happens. I can tell when he's getting
ramped up, and if I point it out to him, he's learned to calm himself down.
He has been in "friendship" groups at school for 2 years, where they
teach kids how to deal with anger.
I know this isn't helping. But when I detached blame for the outbursts
from both myself and my son, that's when the breakthroughs started
happening.
Best of luck to you!The meds could be causing this, especially the strattera. Thanks guys for the support. He has an appointment friday to change his meds but now I am scared to go anywhere near a drs office now that the swine flu has gone wild. Try a psychopharm - no ped. for adhd meds. What med is he on currently? What are you changing to, any ideas?
My son is the same way. He will misbehave and I'll send him to time-out and he will just lose it. First, he will say, "Drag me!" and thankfully he's a little thing so I lift him up and physically take him to time-out. Once he is in his room he slams the door in my face. And I literally have to stand guard or he will come out.
The problem is while I am at the door he is throwing things at the door. Kicking it. Trashing his room. Pulling all the books off the shelves, dumping toy bins, calling me terrible names, etc. There have been so many times I have slumped to the floor in tears and he'll call me a big baby. It's gut wrenching. I almost want to give him up it gets so bad sometimes. Is latest thing has been threatening to escape out the window in his bedroom while in time-out. It's always something with him.
I don't know what helps. It isn't his meds. Is combo is actually working great right now. It's just he gets angry and there is no controlling him. But, once he has calmed down it's like nothing ever happened. He'll come out wanting a hug and saying, "So, what's for dinner, Mom?" And here I am a mess puddled on the floor.
I wish I knew the answer. I just keep folowwing through and trying to remain as calm as possible. I've learned if he knows he's getting to me he's much worse.
I relate. My daughter has been throwing yelling fits when she doesn't get her way. I send her to time out and she spins out of control.(more of the same but intensified.) She is just starting meds and I think it is related. Although she made it through today without a fit.
Staying calm definitely makes the situation less explosive, Lord, please give me more patience.
Do you think he has the right diagnosis? What about bipolar - manic and then depressed/angry?
Most adhd'ers have a co-morbid. My son has anxiety in addition to his adhd, along with sensory integration and a speech delay.
what do you think?
Some doctors still aren't recognizing that children can be diagnosed correctly, unfortunately. It doesn't just show up one day, it is there everyday. Those doctors are behind the times.I think you may want another opinion. But you are his mom, I am more mad at the teacher and school!! You son might throw fits due to the way they are treating him. I wonder also what you don't know what goes on during his day at school, you may want to suprise a visit and observe. Again, I don't believe the teacher!!
Bethann - I totally agree with you. I think with ADHD being a co-morbid disorder that there can be other things going on. I don't know about the OP but for my son it's OCD and anxiety/depression and I have even discussed bipolar with the doctor. But, his doctor is extremely hesitant and I think somewhat doubtful about giving a diagnosis of bipolar in childhood.
I am not too concerned with my son's behavior as he seems to be the most stable he has ever been and the fits of rage happen once or twice a week just depending. And his actions also depend on my reaction. If I can keep myself together and calm we work through it much easier. I have to remember that I as a parent can sometimes mess up too and cause him to have an even more difficult time. Sometimes, I think parenting ADHD kids is a science. 