Adhd and Substitute teachers? | ADHD Information

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Fairly new to the board and my son Dominic has only been on Meds since January, so we are going through the dose issues currently.  He has a hard enough time getting through a school day and then....a substitute for potentially the entire week.  My afternoon went like this, waiting for Dom to come out from school and instead the other 1st grade teacher came out to talk to me. Apparently this was the second day of substitute and a different one from yesterday. Well the sub and Dom had a very bad day he was "out of control" and she wanted him to sign the paper they send home regarding losing all 3 behavior sticks that day. He refused to sign and it went downhill from there. So I had to carry him out of the school for the second time kicking and screaming. He lost control and was physically assaulting me and making me try to carry him across the playground to the car as I am trying to hold it together.
I am wondering does this happen to other parents with their adhd child and substitutes?  Do you have any ideas to help in the future? A big problem is we do not know when there will be a sub before the day.
This is common. Have a talk with the teacher and ask her to provide substitutes with detailed information on how to manage your child. If it's the same substitute tomorrow why not just go to class with him, or let the principal know that this particular teacher doesn't have the needed skill set to manage him and you want to do home study until the regular teacher returns. He shouldn't be going ballistic at the end of the day. Her approach obviously sent him over the edge.My son has a horrible time with transitions and with changes to his
schedule.    What works with my son is when he basically ignores the sub
and goes through his ed tech 100%. It may be too late for this, but is
there another adult, someone he knows and respects at the school, who
could buddy up with him for the rest of the week?

Also - it helps if my son gets a heads up. He has an ed tech now, but
before he had one they would send someone, frequently the vice principal
or his special ed coordinator, to "introduce" him to the sub. Then he
didn't feel like he was blindsided and it was easier for him to deal with
the sub. Also, the sub was always given a heads up about him so they
wouldn't push so hard.

My son's worst sub experience was with one who insisted he write his
name on the page first - he always writes his name when he's done with
his work. It was an all out war. When I pitched a fit with the school for
the absolutely inane power struggle the sub was doing, I got the
principal to tell her to back off, and guess what - the next day they had
no problems.

Sounds like you have a power struggle going on there, too. You can't call
the sub, but you can call the principal to find out what happened. If your
son's sub is trying to make him do something to stake a claim, have the
principal intervene. Just giving the sub permission not to force your son
to toe the line might be enough breathing room to calm everything down.

Another thing - and this is just me - my son does homework very well, so
if there's some major disruption happening at school, I keep him home
and basically homeschool him for a short while. That might be the best
solution for you this week.

Best of luck! Do some extra self-care tonight - you deserve it!