Grandparent Help | ADHD Information

I wish that grandparents would take the iniative to learn about ADHD instead of refusing to believe in it.  I also wish they would be more accepting of my children for the special people they are.  Anytime any kind of disability with my children is mentioned ADHD, dyspraxia, sensory issues they jump on the defensive.

My father in law believes  ADHD is highly affected by the environment. nuture more than nature. 

I would love for the grandparents to invite the kids over for the weekend and learn to accept them for who they are.
My Parents use to pick him up at school and keep my son till dinner and do homework with him. Now they are both very ill and can no longer help me in any way. I wish they felt better so they could have a relationship with their grandson!

It would be really nice if the grandparents were supportive of the situation. My mom believes that i have him medicated because the dr's and teachers cant handle a hyper child. She does not believe in ADHD or ADD. She thinks it just a reason for parents and doctors to put their children on medication to sedate them.

What kinds of things do grandparents do that are helpful in raising your ADHD child?  What do you wish they wouldn't do?  Any suggestions are welcome!

If I were a parent of an ADHD child (I am an adult ADHD), I would want my parents to mind their own business and let me handle things on my own.  I realize there are some people who want their parents (g.parents) help and that's fine if they want it.  Then it's up to all parties to come to an agreement as to how much or how little g.parents will help out.  It is my feeling however, that the g.parents rarely are living with the child in question and don't cope with the day to day situations.  Therefore, it's harder for them to help out.  And then what happens when parents and g.parents disagree? 

Just things to think about. 
I wish my mother would educate herself on ADHD, give me a break once in awhile, and stop expressing strong opposition to medication.Jessica N39943.8933680556Jessica - I sense your exasperation with your mother.  You don't need to lie to her.  If she doesn't believe you or support you, quit turning to her for those things.  Her inability to accept you and your children and the ADHD is her problem.  You know what you are doing is right for you and your kids.  One thing you could do is give her the education she needs.  Give her a book.  Granted, you can't make her read it but you can put it out there for her.  And then you know you've done what you could.  Ball is in her court then.  And if she still rebuffs you, you have some back up. 

And remember, we support you and acknowledge you.  Wish I could help you out so you could go out to dinner.  (But not alone, that's no fun!)

Hang in there!