Son lost it, so upset | ADHD Information

my son is the same way, very rigid and wants to be first all the time, very ossy and he will be 9 in August, hardly has any friends but the few he has are good ones and their parents know what is going on and accept him.Thanks for the kind words, I can't tell you how validating it is to know I'm (we're) not the only ones out there.  Sometimes you feel just so alone.This is rebound? After the meds wore off?I'm mostly a lurker here, getting hope and inspiration from all of you.  My ds (7) was diagnosed with ADHD in first grade and he had a really hard year.  The second grade has been much better with Concerta.  He has only had one "meltdown" where he tried to run out of the school this entire year.  Well, last night our neighbor/friend brought him home from playing.  He is a nice man, but was very upset.  My ds was hitting him.  Apparently our son got angry (full blown rage)and started throwing other kids bikes and would not stop when asked.  He has had episodes like this a handful of times over the years.  He has difficulty socially and I've had him in social groups in the past.  He has few friends because he is very rigid with play and can be bossy.  He has this intense sense of "following the rules" and when someone falls out of line, he is the first person to address it.  We have been working on this, but it continues to be a problem.  I just want to cry.  I'm so embarrassed and fearful that his few friends will no longer want to play with him or that the other parents are fearful.  I feel like a failure as a mom.

I can so relate to the following the rules behavior. My 6-year-old son is very much the same way. I have to constantly remind him that he is not the adult, mom or dad, etc. We have been working on this. For example,  in social situations, I'll give him the reminder that he's not the adult and that if another kid does something "wrong" he should find an adult to help him out. I know it creates a bit of a tattle tale scenario but is much better than him becoming the disciplinarian.

Hang in there!!!

Most likely the meds had worn off, and it was a new situation, and it all
came together in the perfect storm.

I would have a talk with the other parents. I would explain about your son's
ADHD and what his triggers are. Let them know that his behavior was not
normal, and you're hoping they can give him another chance under better
circumstances. Next time he plays over make sure that he's fully medicated
and go with him as a support. Then you can see what's going on. It's
possible that he was taunted and that started the tantrum.

Best of luck!