BILLS! BILLS! BILLS! | ADHD Information

 Anyone else out there with SERIOUS issues with paying bills?? I just had my car repossed today...and everything else is behind too!! My husband also has ADHD- and just neglects things! I am completely overwhelmed and looking for suggestions. Sounds like you need a coach to help you get back on track.  But you have to be 110% committed - both you AND your husband.  Maybe some marriage counseling might help too.

Yeah, I have been thinking about a coach. Anyone out there who can recommend a good one?

I will kind of be on my own with this. My husband has been struggling with depression for about 3 years!! Won't get help! He actually doesn't admit to his issues & won't even consider writing anything down OR using a calandar!!I am so frustrated and overwhelmed. Marriage counseling has been brought up several times....but $$$ is so tight, it may not work.  So that may be an issue with the coach too.

Oh boy, this is a long road! When you combine my husband, my daughter and myself..... life is CRAZY and our house is chaotic.

 

below is just for fun.

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if money isnt the problem  then pay someone to do it for you.

or have all your mail forwarded to a supportive third person who can sort your mail and bring it to you every two weeks .

this eliminates distracting type mail includes soccial support eliminates paper clutter from getting into home less likely to get lost have bills sent to you as online statements to: bills.your.name@isp.com so you can keep better track

 

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just for fun

 

A Not-To-Do List

Today is the day you start your project.

Wake up. Make your coffee. Sit down. Get to work.

Now, it should be that simple. Wake up and get to work.

But there are many distractions. Mental and otherwise.

So this is NOT a to-do list. This is a not-to-do list. You don't need to check anything off, because these are things YOU ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO DO.

Do not check your email.
Do not go to nytimes.com.
Do not decide to organize your cd rack.
Do not turn on the television.
Do not clip your nails.
Do not stare at your bald spot in the mirror and begin to calculate how much time your hair has left.
Do not start catching up on the DVDs that have arrived from Netflix.
Do not update your Netflix queue.
Do not Google all your Exes.
Do not Google yourself.
Do not dust the house.
Do not sweep the floors.
Do not take out the trash.
Do not get sucked into the argument when your significant other starts screaming about the fact that you drank the last of the milk and even though you said you would get more you didn't. Just apologize, apologize, and then apologize again. (But don't be tempted to apologize "for being such a horrible person" – that is a sign that you are getting drawn into a bigger dust-up. Stay on target with your apology, explain that you have serious work to do, and get back to your project.)
Do not decide to make yourself an elaborate lunch.
Do not take a nap.
Do not change the cat litter.
Do not decide to figure out the calorie count of your recent meals.
Do not pay your bills.
Do not balance your checkbook.
Do not freak out that you have no money.
Do not go into the bathroom and give your Academy Award acceptance speech.
Do not put on Prince and party like it's 1999. (Well, okay, maybe ONCE, just to get you fired up about your project.)
Do not start going through your closet.
Do not decide to floss.
Do not organize your spice rack.
Do not update your address book.
Do not make a list of things to do.
Do not watch Oprah.
Do not listen to NPR.
Do not start to think you don't have what it takes to actually do your project.
Do not read any further on this post – caught you! Stop reading now and get to work on your project.
Do not check what time the movie is playing later.
Do not decide to send an angry email to that annoying friend who recently pissed you off.
Do not play with the cats.
Do not clip your nose hairs.
Do not start trying to organize a dinner party.
Do not start wondering if that mole that seems a little bigger than the last time you checked it might be skin cancer.
Do not start going through all the papers on your desk.
Do not make a list of all the things you have to get done at work.
Do not start thinking you are never going to finish.
Do not make a quick run to the grocery store.
Do not search for gray hairs.
Do not start fantasizing about sex.
Do not decide to make a call to your significant other to tell him or her that you don't think you've been getting any, and that you better damn well get some tonight (you know, because that one works every time).
Do not go to IMDB to see who that actor was in that movie you saw the other night. Or what that girl from that show from way back when is doing now.
Do not start perusing your own bookshelves.
Do not organize your computer files.
Do not clean out your inbox.
Do not click into the online gossip sites.
Do not pick your nose.
Do not start reading old letters from old flames.
Do not crack open a beer.
Do not pluck your eyebrows.
Do not to give yourself a facial.
Do not start going through your photos.
Do not return your phone calls.
Do not start reading your old journal entries.
Do not start thinking about how your project is lame.
Do not scrub the tub.
Do not clean the toilet.
Do not open a bottle of wine.
Do not start wading through all the magazines you subscribe to but never read.
Do not decide to start a screenplay (unless, of course, that is your project).
Do not post to your blog.
Do not pull the ATM receipts out of your wallet and start entering withdrawals into your checkbook.
Do not get up and keep getting yourself a glass of water.
Do not refill the ice trays.
Do not do the dishes.
Do not start picking off the wax on your candle holders.
Do not start worrying about all the time you've already wasted.

There are a million more things that could be on this list, but remember, it's not a to-do list, so it doesn't matter if something is missing -- you are NOT supposed to be doing these things. Just get to work on your project.

--Jeffrey Yamaguchi

not me! thought i would share.

 

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i can be neglectful of certian things. mostly of goals that i have for myself 

i stay so busy for others that

I rarly can point to anything that is what reprsens me.

so  over the years naval gazing i see a pattern  of success when i

have a creative outlet.

not something i do everyonce in while   but something i do everyday to the degree of a daily disapline.

i get caught up in doing things everyday then they become habits and i loose intrest but the habit remains.

well  i do goo on and onn.

 

its the creative outlet that kids drifts into what i neglect.

 

paying bills not fun but  paying bills while lmao with a comedian friend. every two weeks    not so neglectful.

 My 25 year old daughter has issues with bills and keeping a job. She was diagnosed with ADHD and Bipolar when she was 20. It has been a terrible ride for everyone. She has gone thru numerous and I mean NUMEROUS, jobs some lasting a week others  a year and a few days. She gets a dollar and it is gone, she is behind on her bills and now out of work. Is probably not eligible for unemployment so if someone doesn't give her another chance soon she will lose her car. I have tried and tried to stear her in the right direction but she always seems to go in the opposite. Everyone says you have to cut the strings eventually and let them hit bottom if they must,but boy it is hard when you see your child struggling to stay afloat, I sympathize with you. We have been going to counsling but don't find that to be very helpful at this point, she is on medication regiment and has all the testing and been to several specialists (Psychiatrists). She has even gone as far as filing for disability, still waiting to hear on that. I just pray that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Don't give up, be persistant and persue your state programs!!!!  They have been a god send for my daughter.