Hi, I was wondering if any of you are having problems with your kids going to school? My son just turned 11 and will be in 6th grade. He used go to school okay, but the last 4 months of 5th grade we had problems. The school would call me EVERYDAY a couple times a day and it was wearing on me! I know they were frustrated too, but he can't be the ONLY child like this.
I thought maybe something happened at school, but he keeps assuing me nothing happened. He said when he goes he misses me. We took him to the psych. and we were told he has separation anxiety. I would drop him off at school and he would cry and say he wasn't going.
We would have to tell him he goes into class or we are going to carry him. When my husband went to the school it worked better then me.
Anyways, my son kept going out of the class and saying he couldn't go in so the teacher would have to stop class and go get him.
This summer we have had him in counseling and I thought things were getting better up until yesterday. We went to church and again he started crying saying he didn't want to go in there. He sat on the cement and had a meltdown.
Later that night he told me he wanted me to homeschool him because he didn't want to go back to school. Now I am so upset crying, thinking that he was getting better when he is going to start the year off like it ended last year.
Any advise would be great. I just don't know what to do anymore. Right now he is taking 30mg of Adderall XR. He was trying out anxiety and mood stabelizer meds, but I didn't like that and I felt he didn't need them. I don't know though. I am just so confused on if I am doing the right thing or not. Thank you for listening if you got this far.
May I ask, did anything happen to bring it on at school?
Does he have friends? I remember having friend issues and not wanting to go to school, as if it was yesterday.
I really wonder if something happened at school that caused this and that is what has brought on his worrying.
He may not want to tell you.
Just a thought!
I don't have any advice but I can tell you that your not alone. My 5 year old DD cries and screams everytime I drop her off at day care for me to go to work. Now I know you may think this isn't similar, but hear me out. She was never like this. I took her to register for school in May and every since then she has been acting this way. She is terrified to start school. She never wants to leave my side. I can't hardly get her to go play at home. There are days that I have to take her back to her classroom 4-5 times just so I can leave. It breaks my heart hearing her scream for me not to leave her. Stay strong and remember you are not alone. Does he have trouble going anywhere else? Or is it just school? If it is just school then I would think something happened at school. If it happens in other situations too then I would talk to his doctor. I hope you get some answers soon. Keep digging around about school. Maybe something has happened there. II thought maybe it was his band class. He begged me to play the trumpet. I didn't want him to because he quits everything, but decided to try it out. Then he didn't like it anymore, but he was stuck with it because at his school it's an elective class and they can't switch.
He always says nothing happened and he loved his teacher. He was always talking about how she is the best ever. He is outgoing and always talking about kids, but he doesn't really have that one close friend. I think it would make things MUCH better if he did find a good friend that sat out with him because he doesn't like sports.
He tells me everything, so I don't think anything happened at school. I keep trying to get it out of him and he always says, "no, nothing happend." Then he says if somebody tried to hurt him he would punch him. He wouldn't really, but I think he was just trying to let me know nobody has hurt him and he can handle it. I don't know though.
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May I ask, did anything happen to bring it on at school?
Does he have friends? I remember having friend issues and not wanting to go to school, as if it was yesterday.
I really wonder if something happened at school that caused this and that is what has brought on his worrying.
He may not want to tell you.
Just a thought!
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My aunt keeps telling me she did the same thing and she doesn't know why. She said she found a good friend then things were better for her.
I also have anxiety really bad. I have tried some things, but I don't like the way it makes me feel so I just suffer. Yuck.. it's an awful feeling! It's so hard because my son doesn't know it's anxiety.. he can't explain it, he just knows he feels like he can't do certain things. We are still taking him to a psychologist too.
I don't want to switch him to another school. We switched schools a couple years ago because the one he was at was horrible. He says he loves his school He gets upset if I mention going to another school.
They haven't got their new class schedule yet, so I'm not sure if there is a friend in his class. I wish their were more kids that lived close to us. There are only a couple. I always feel like they don't want to play with him.
I wish they had a playgroup or something for kids with ADHD around here, but there is nothing. If I were good at that stuff, I would organize it, but I am not up for the big responsiblility right now.
[QUOTE=babygonz]Keep digging around about school. Maybe something has happened there. I
remember being in grade school and crying at school for no reason at all
really. It went in stages. I believe it was anxiety in my case. I still have
anxiety and take meds for it. Work with a psychologist/counselor and your
son and come up with a plan for school. Find out what triggers it and see
what you can work out with his teachers. Can he switch to a smaller school?
Does he have a close friend that will be in his class?[/QUOTE]