My son and his OWN identity

We are two weeks into school and I am finding my son acting like another boy. He can come home and I can tell who he has been with just by his words and body language. They play on the football team together and go to school together. My son takes vyvanse 50 mg once a day. But I feel like when he is around this boy he is a bad influence. I think the other boy also has ADHD but his parents do nothing for it. Why is my son attracted to him. It is like my son can be in a crowd and pick the worst one to be friends with. It is usually the loudest one and the one that makes no sense when he speaks.

Do you think the meds are not working for him so he's not making the right choices?

He has a couple other friends that are his BEST friends but they go to another school and they hang out just about every weekend. And there is NEVER a problem!!!

What do i do?????

Kids like to play "dress up" with who they are and who their friends are, regardless of things like ADHD. This kind of thing happens to all children at some time or another. They are testing the boundaries of who they are and what they like, either consciously or otherwise. If he makes bad choices around certain children, inforce the consequences, then ask him questions afterward, like " Why did you choose to ........ today? What did your friend think of that? What do you feel about the consequences? Would you have done that with (insert calm best friend's name)? Why not?" If you can probe in this way, it won't seem like a lecture or that you are choosing his friends for him. BPQW40051.5733680556

How old is your son? I was wondering if besides the social stigma and wanting to fit in and be accepted that is definetly going on, peer pressure stuff, but I also wonder if there might be puberty as well. I also noticed in my own son, who is 12, he comes home using words that all the others are using.

Does your son want to socialize with this boy outside of school or only at school? If not, then it is definelty sounding like peer pressure. Your son obviously doesn't want to be alone at school. Any one else he is friends with as well besides this boy? It is hard for the other child since he may have it and his parents aren't helping him. I feel bad for him.

I would keep an eye on things and touch base with the teachers, just in case!

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