Seeking a second opinion | ADHD Information

Yes, you should seek professional help.  Generally, Child Psychologists are the best person to diagnose ADHD.  I don't know about healthcare in the UK.  I've heard it's not the best but all you need is one good doctor who'll be willing to work with you and help you.

I am 46 and still very impatient.  I don't know if that ever goes away.  May just be an underlying ADHD symptom.  So, I totally understand that.  I also understand the tantrums. I had violent tantrums until I was a teenager on a regular basis.  Then, as an adult, I remember one time I was trying to get a vacuum cleaner to work - it was on its' last leg.  I remember taking it and banging it on the floor all the while swearing "f-ing thing" at the top of my lungs.  I probably scared my kids.  Of course, that didn't make it work.  Another time when I was going through some intense therapy, I took a whole box of plates and threw them at the fence.  They all broke and I had a big mess.  I'm really good at losing patience over the computer.  I get so irritated when it doesn't load fast enough or when a program doesn't work properly.  My daughter is very open about pointing out when I've lost my patience.  Of course, depression and PMS don't help the impatience.  I have cooled on the road rage but I'm still impatient with friends who don't call and all my pet peeves.  But it's weird.  I seem to have all the patience in the world with my daughter or my mentee.  I have patience for customers when they call at work.  But that's about all I really have patience for.

You are not alone.  Impatience, temper tantrums and immaturity all coincide with ADHD.  I would suggest that you talk to your family physician about getting a referral to a child psychologist for an evaluation.  The last thing I want to see is a young lady struggle like I have for most of my life.  You're doing the right thing by reaching out here.  Keep me posted.

So, hi. I had this whole long post typed out to basically say 'I think I have ADHD-PI, and here's why:' but when I allowed pop-ups to preview, it refreshed and cleared the form.

I really need to go to sleep, so I'm going to try and (briefly) summerise the massive post I just lost.

I'm a nineteen year old girl from the UK. I'm really impatient to a point where my want for something can become like a physical ache in my chest/stomach. I've always had problems with keeping my attention, procrastination and forgetfulness, but these problems have seemed to intensify over the past five years. I have suffered from panic attacks as a result of the above for various reasons and saught medical help, where I was basically laughed at and told I was just lazy and didn't want to go to school. This was before I suspected ADHD. I was in the top set for all my classes until I hit fourteen when the problems worsened and my results started to suffer. The only reason I hung onto top set throughout was because of the panic attacks suffered soon after (because they were too PC to move me down). My mother is in denial that there's something that's not letting me get on with working life and says she could apply everything I've researched to herself. I understand self-diagnosis isn't the best way of doing things, but I was desperate. When I'm asked something and I don't know the answer of am not interested, my mind blanks. This can last for minutes at a time and has happened at home, at school, at work and in several work-interviews. I left my last job a fortnight ago because I was sometimes sitting there all day and been distracted. Eight hours at a time, seven days a week. I'm embarrassed to admit I have ferocious tantrums when I'm confused/angry/unable to express myself in a better way, which makes me sound like a baby... But sometimes it just builds up so much I do literally need to scream and cry until I feel better. I might just be a brat, though.

Please ask me anything you want, I forget the rest of what I put in the original post and have given myself a headache trying to remember. I'm sorry if this is the wrong forum or even site. But if someone could point me in the right direction, it would be very much appreciated. I just need to know.

I would like an opinion that is not my own/my mothers and who I should see/how I should seek help from if so.

Thank you to everyone who takes the time to read this.

[EDIT] Slowly, something's come back to me. I don't know if it's relevant, but I have obsessional stages with things. Be it reading or a particular internet site. I can sit down and read and read and read, talk nothing but books and authors and what not and then suddenly, not be able to read anymore because my mind starts to wander when I look at a page. This is regardless of how interesting the plot has become. Current obsession: an internet forum (that isn't this one).

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