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I use several different kinds of software o keep me focussed on my own goals and on expectations of others.
I cant keep a calendar up to date and i lose track of past entries.
So for 9 years now I've been on a quest to find a software that I can use to navigate my goals and tasks.
One I'm using now is freeware but the upgrade has more features.
Differences in software makes me use some featuress just as a tool .
one brand has an excellent plannar view -- good for plotting on a calendar
another brand is a fast entry mind map type
while another is strictly a hierarchy of check boxes.
differently still mobile software is transportable for those on the go.
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personally having adhd myself i have touble sticking to my own goals.
mentally i mean . if i dont write it down i forget my minor goals or some of the steps . i get so distracted that i just go with the flow more often than completeing my own tasks.
a few years ago I started giving myself 1-2 hours a day to work on my own goals. It has help to put that in my routine . but its when i have the checklist w/steps that i am more focussed on completeing tasks and making new habits.
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from time to time i would put waaaayyy to much information in them.
they would become large clouds full of many aspectss . this became confusing and difficult to prioritize.
so Ive found that keeping lists rather small offers more chances to complete goals.
i try to limit a goal to 50 tasks or less
i also try to prioritize them with time
under thirty minutes under 4 hours all dayalso by cost
also wether i need help
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what i found was that i would sometime get to an impass.
half way through and then i would stop .
it took a long time for me to realize that i should have asked someone else to help or to just do it for me pay them or just as a favor.
it took me twenty years to just ask for help.
ill explain
things you can do yourself well its easier to ask someone else to do a step for you
and move on.
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so making a deadline for goals helps with plotting out if you need help .
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lets take chores for instance.
theres daily chores like: dishes, laundry, and tidying up.
then theres weekly chores that get out of control if not done every weeklike: trash, clear out the fridge, sweeping floors, dusting , windows, bills. micro wave
but there are other things that are seldom done
like: oven , cobwebs, vehicle cleaning , vehicle maintenance, sanitizing toys, archiving paper, drains, home repairs, fragrances , smoke alarm batteries and tests, purging unused stuff, wiping down furniture , under the cushions, behind dressers and under the beds, seasonal decorations, updating disaster kit. throwing out old medications.
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i just through periods of depression or low self esteem and mant days go by where i only do the daily things. then i just get around to weekly things. the other thing to neglected for long periods of time.
this hurts my self esteem also . i get down on myself about things i know i should be doing but havent and sometime the feeling become overwhelming i start but dont finish.
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so over time i started to seek alternative to what can motivate me to get it all done .
mental notes rarley do it
paper lists get lost.
friends only help sometimes.
a routine is huge but doesnt focus on total conpletion.
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so i went on a quest for software .
i found many hundreds and tried them out.
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i came up with a formula hat works for me.
when i try to get others to adhere to my list and routine it fails.
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so i keep my list to my self but i keep it on my phone where it never gets lost.
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but i keep a mutiple list on a computer wher i can make other lists about many other goals and projects . so the lists become tools . not like a calender but like a goals to do list.
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by giving myself 1-2 hours a day i can review the check boxes wether they are ticked or not - thats where the benifits are
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so routine and software make the difference.
they compensate for my feelings of being under-motivated < routine
and under-focussed < checkboxes to goal
example to follow