Im just wanting to reply to your post. Im trully sorry you have not recieved comfort from others. Your daughter is not wanting to be the way she is. I can only assume from how i feel at times. I know i am intelligent yet i live far below my potential. To feel this way and live a life far from your dreams. It can destroy you. So you can treat others out of frustration. Then deep down you have to live with the way you make others feel yet cannot say sorry. Dont bash yourself if she gets bad towards you. She actually is going bad at herself when she goes bad. The best you can do is communicate with her and listen. I feel i cant be heard most times. Hope her x husband is ok.
Its rough im sorry. Best i can do for now.
You won't do her any favors running over and cleaning up her house. Is she on meds if she is so out of control then she probably needs some. I know with out meds my life is horrible. With them I still struggle but it is a much more managable chaos.Last night another "blow up" her dad went into her room and put all her clothing in sacks and put them in the garage. I had to listen to his screaming and then when she got home , I had to listen to her screaming ( her dad was not home, so all her rage was put on me. the same when he sacked up her clothing she was not home and he screamed at me. I was on zoloft for about 2 years, and I recently had to go off of it I got to where I could not "feel" emotion and simply didnt care about anything, Now I dont know what to do to be able to cope with all this termoil in my household. My husband only eats bologna sandwiches, or vienna sausages, He will not eat my cooking, because I have cats in the house. (Iam very clean) He has been this way since May, also he will sleep on a mattress in the garage, spiders, bugs etc. tipical messy garage. He has done things like this for years, He would not even eat Thanksgiving dinner. he got his bologna sandwich. My life is out of control. (we have been married 34 years I am 52) Is there any help?I hope things get better for you. Sounds like you are going through so much right now. What happened in May to change your husbands behavoir, loss of job, new medication, or is that around the time your daughter moved back home. Sounds like he is dealing with some depression issues to have his personality change like that.
For you I'd say take a step back. It sounds like you are trying to do everything to please everyone and wearing yourself out. I know it's all with good intentions but you're no help to anyone when you let the stress build up like that. Your husband and daughter are adults and can fend for themselves for awhile.