son is 7 but acts 3 | ADHD Information
[QUOTE=stefb]Thankyou i just feel like im a t my wits end nowhes just a pediatrician but im hoping he will refer him to a psychiatrist but if not im asking to see some1 else because i just feel like he just fobs us off
sometimes I dread waking up to him most mornings u know how bad he is within 2 minutes off him waking and he is like that until 11 at night i will not give in and let him stay down i make him stick to his routine but he doesn go to sleep even on melatonin
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Just wondering if the sleep thing could be neurotransmitters off. There's a book about it called The Edge Effect by Eric Braverman. I did the written quiz in the book for my son and also had my son's urine tested and they matched.
Just wondering if you have taken him to see a neuropsychologist? I've heard that they are able to do more indepth testing and can pinpoint meds to better suit. I'm in the process of getting my son tested.
Also, when I want my son to go to bed, I soak his feet in one cup of Epsom salts and really warm water. He asks to go to bed.
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tegary, the sleep problems are as a result of the ADHD brain not being able to settle down at night. Constant racing thoughts makes it very difficult to quiet the brain long enough to drift into a deep sleep. Those taking stimulant meds should also make certain that the meds are taken early in the day because they are also a contributing factor in terms of lack sleep, Taking measures to make your son feel relaxed before bedtime can really help. Good for you finding something that works for your son
Luvmykids0240180.6339351852thankyou logans mom
StephB, you can buy epsom salts at most any pharmacy. I just started using it in Kendal's bath at night and it does seem to help, plus it's inexpensive!thankyou staciabeth thats a great help least i know why they are like they are now :)and thankyou i will be trying epsom salts once i can get out off my house with this snow lol
[QUOTE=staciabeth] Sometimes I handle him best by treating him as if he were the younger age. This is mostly in stressful situations, like the dentist or when he had stitches. By comforting him as if he was 2 years younger instead of forcing him to "act his age" he handled the situation better.[/QUOTE]
i do tend to treat him as he is younger ii cant help it lol but the problem is his peers notice this also when walking to school there is other kids in his class who walk in front of there parents chatting with friends Alex cant do this i have to make him hold my hand because he runs and most off the way there he is off shouting and screaming (in a silly way)
Also can any1 help me with another situation
my daughter is 5 and Alex seems to have a hold over her he can make her do anything even when she knows its wrong or dangerous she will listen to him over me and i dont know how to deal with this thankyou
stefb40185.1337384259There is a realtionship between magnesium deficiency and ADHD...
Epsom salt is magnesium and soaking your feet can help with ADHD symptoms by relaxing you to help you rest. For my children, it almost puts them asleep. Epsom salt baths are commonly recommended by DAN doctors.
ms.mom40179.7567939815I don't remember where I read the article-it may have been in a professional journal (I'm an Audiologist), but a hospital here in Chicago did a study with an specific type of MRI. They found that kids with ADHD have an overdeveloped motor cortex and underdeveloped frontal lobe (which controls emotions). Therefore, these kids are very active (which we all know) but have social maturity that lags 2-4 years behind their peers. When I read this the light bulb went on in my head, because it described my son to a T. Sometimes I handle him best by treating him as if he were the younger age. This is mostly in stressful situations, like the dentist or when he had stitches. By comforting him as if he was 2 years younger instead of forcing him to "act his age" he handled the situation better. The good news is that the same study showed that these kids catch up by their teenage years. My son just turned 9, and I have seen him mature a lot this past year. He is a totally different child than he was last January. Each child is on their own timetable, but overall I would say, yes, our children with ADHD lag behind their peers socially by 2-4 years, and their are studies to show why.i think ill be giving that a try thankyou :) where can i buy it? my son has was diagnosed when he was 5 with ADHD but im possitive he has other problems anyway im just wondering if any1 is having the same problem as me my son is 7 now and i have a daughter off 4 but my son acts younger than her he does things she has grown out off does any1 elses child act younger?
I don't know if this is a "hallmark symptom" of ADHD but may people with ADHD experience greater immaturity. I know when I was a kid, I often acted more immature than my peers. I even got teased in middle school because I asked a friend to "play" after school.
The best thing you can do is to encourage your child to behave more age appropriate in a gentle manner. Don't tell them that they are acting immature or their "shoe size" or whatever. That doesn't help. When you do see them acting more mature, applaud that and bring attention to those moments.
I don't know that medications actually HELP with immaturity issues but maybe if the impulsivity is diminished, then the child can focus more on acting their age.
Most importantly, be patient with your child. Understanding the differences between your kids and accepting them for who they are will do more wonders than pointing out those differences and expecting them to behave the same.
Good luck!
Yes, my son acts younger! He's so immature in a lot of areas and he's drawn to much younger kids. The social part got better with medication because he wasn't irritating other kids as much but there are still a lot of areas that I'd say he's about a year (or two) behind where he should be. By the way, how's your son's medication going? I haven't heard from you in a while
Hi, my son has just recently turned 8 and yes, he does act very immature especially in comparison to children of the same age. My 6 yr old daughter made a beaded bracelet a few days ago and so my son wanted to make one and of course most of the beads were "girlish" and so his bracelet looked girlish but he wore it all afternoon at home but wanted to wear it to school the next day and I had to say no and explain why (so now he watns me to buy some boy beads).
My mother looked after my 2 children a few months ago and they were in the toy room playing on the playstation when all of a sudden my son got up and pulled down his shorts (leaving his jocks on) and decided it would be funny for Nanna to see him run outside and run around with shorts pulled down.
Alot of adhd children are immature for their respective ages.
Tarina
hi logans mom sadly Alex is still the same and is getting into a lot more trouble i have asked his doctor to look into ODD and SPD but as yet nothing to report if i dont get any joy with him i am asking for a second opinion as even school have had to place him in detention twice in the past few weeks, over the past few weeks he has lost even more friends i went into the playground with him the other morning and there was a group off boys who shouted quick ALEX ALERT and they all ran i felt so sorry for him but in ways i can understand they are all growing up and Alex isn he is like a nursery school child, he is 90% off the time misbehaving, picking on his younger sister annoying any1 in sight he deleted a teachers folder of the school computer, because off his age in school they try to treat him like his peers give him some responability but he just cant manage it he gets bored and fiddles with everything and ends up in trouble because of it i really dont know what to do anymore he said he cant change them because he hasn put weight on or grown so he says there is nothing he can do he does get meds sorted and they work for 2/3 months then wear off so we change them they work again then again they wear off :S but even when they do work he still acts years youngerSorry to hear that he isn't doing any better! 
I know how hard it can be. Is he still on the same medication or has it been changed? This sounds like a medication issue to me. Is your doctor a psychiatrist or just a pediatrician? I've heard that the medication choices in the UK are more limited than they are over here but there's got to be something to help your little guy! Hang in there!
hes just a pediatrician but im hoping he will refer him to a psychiatrist but if not im asking to see some1 else because i just feel like he just fobs us off
sometimes I dread waking up to him most mornings u know how bad he is within 2 minutes off him waking and he is like that until 11 at night i will not give in and let him stay down i make him stick to his routine but he doesn go to sleep even on melatonin
stefb, there is a 30% maturity lag in a child with ADHD so for example, if a child is 10, their maturity level is approximately the age of a 7 year old. If you cant get a good referral to a psychiatirst from your child's pediatrician call your local hospital and Im sure they could steer you in the right direction
Good luck and please keep us postedMy son is 6 and acts much younger he gets on other kids(his age) nerves,and the older kids get a kick out of him,they think he is funny because he says things that you wouldnt belive without thinking about it first.He still gets up during the night like an infant.I constantly worry about him because he is super sensitive to things that kids his age say,even if they are not making fun of him sometimes he feels they are.kids my sons age really dont get on with him they tend to avoid him there is a few girls in his class that mother him he prefers to be with little children nursey age he doesn like toys 7yr olds normally play with he likes a lot younger childrens toys i am so worried as he gets older he is going to be bullied for this even when is medication is working at its best he still acts yrs younger i try to point out his childish behaviour but i feel mean by saying you shouldn be doin this or doing that because thats just him trock25 i know what u mean by the older kids get a kick out of ur son they do with mine to problem is they tell him things to do and he does them and im worried he will get hurt is wasnt so bad when he was in yr 2 as he was in the infants playground so he didn mingle with older children but now he does
My son is 10 and has been diagnosed since 5 years old. He is immature. My
daughter is 7 and she has been diagnosed but not on meds for 2 years. She
is a little bit immature but nothing compared to my son.
I have read that ADHD kids in general are 3 years behind their peers in how
they act. In my case my son is at least that. I think it is common.
stefb, his medication should be working better by now. Definitely ask to see a psychiatrist! The key to finding the right medication is that the doctor be experienced and willing to make adjustments to the meds RIGHT AWAY! If a medication isn't working properly, the doc should change it (or the dose or timing) immediately. If your doc isn't doing this then you are suffering unnecessarily! The meds need to be addressed first, then I'll bet the immaturity will get better. His maturity will probably always be behind other kids his age but I'll be the proper meds will help! Good luck and keep us posted!
But maybe a new doc can try some new ideas...the answer is out there! Just keep trying until you get there. Try to keep your head up! I know how hard it is but if you stick with it, it WILL get better! Just remember, you're not alone around here!