SOOOO SAD!! | ADHD Information

Yes, I really think that he is in need of a medication increase.  I have been trying to get his Behavioral Ped to try Tenex with his concerta to help with the impulsive/hyperactive things.  She just doesn't want to increase. AAAAGH!!!  I think that there is another dynamic happening with my son and the other boy.  My son really likes one of the other boys' friends.  I think my son may be jealous...I just don't know.  The mother that called me was so nice....but left me with the this thought...she told me that she just heard about a 9 year old in TX who hung himself from being bullied. She went on to say that my son telling her son to quit acting like a girl is bordering on harrassement.  I get it and I just don't want my son to be responsible for someone else's misery.  Thank you for listening! You may want to have a medication check.  Is it possible that he's gotten older and needs a dose increase/change??? Also, is he in counseling?  If not he may benefit from that.  And NO I don't think you've taught your child to be a bully! A mom that comes to this board to try to get help for their child and is willing to talk to the other mom on the phone instead of blowing up at her is not the type of mom that would teach a child that behavior!  

Hi and sorry to hear your'e feeling this way. Firstly, is what the other boy's mother saying correct and has her child done anything, I mean was there more to it than what both you and the other mother know? I am in know way trying to justify whats been done but was it teasing on both boy's parts and does your son really understand the seriousness of discussing one's sexuality (my son is almost 8 1/2 and my son would not see the seriousness side of it). As I said Im not trying to justify what your son has done and yes it needs to be dealt with but maybe dont beat yourself up so bad about it. In saying that, I know its hard. We don't swear at home or watch anything on TV my son shouldnt see as he would just go with it however, 3 months ago a mother approaches me at school and says my son taught her son some lovely words which her son then took back to tell his grandparents and were talking the F word and all.........I was horrified as we dont swear. Funny thing is my son picks it up from other kids who have older siblings but of course they know when to stop saying it etc........whereas my son will just keep going and going until he's in trouble. My son was not on med's when the above happended. As Logan'sMum said, could your son be due for a meds dose increase?  Best wishes.

Candycane

My 9 yo ds currently diagnosed ADHD/anxiety has been doing so well
lately.   Until this week. Two notices sent home from his teachers saying
that he needs many reminders, refusing to redirect, ect. Same old adhd
stuff. However, I received a phone call from a mother of another boy in
his class saying that my son has been bullying her son.    I am
mortified. She stated that my son has been teasing her son calling him a
he/she and making references to his sexuality. I was thankful and
appreciated that she called me because most of the time parents just quit
communicating with our family. Of course, we spoke to our son at length
about this. I just really sucks to hear that your child is being a bully. I am
so feeling sorry for myself right now and I am sorry. Does my son feel so
bad about himself that he has to hurt others feelings? The thing is that I
feel I have 2 sons, the one at home who is manageable on his meds,
intelligent, caring, loving,... and one at school who I don't even know? Is
this part of ADHD or have we taught him to bully?? How do we stop this
immediately... especially when you have to give him 10 reminders just to
sit still.....Sometimes it is so hard