scratching other kids
Hi,
So you tried just two different meds?? My ds tried many and we found the right one. Also, if you tried meds many years ago you might try again. Now that she is older she can tell you more how she is feeling on the meds.
We have had several meetings with the school - guidance, team of teachers, etc. since the begining of the year and things have gone pretty well. He grades are good - she has a 504 in place and the teachers have been great. I think it is more the kids and the social issues that are the problem. I spoke to my daughter when she got home and she told me the kids were making fun of one of her friends and they wouldn't stop, that is why she scratched them. I explained to her under no circumstances should you touch another student and she seemed to understand the seriousness of the situation. I am thinking of meeting with them again to discuss this situation but I'm not sure if i should.
As for meds, we had worked with an ADHD team at childrens hospital (nuerologist, psychiatrist, etc.) and tried each differant strain of meds available. One made her agressive and angry and the other made her extremely depressed and suicidal (very scary). They suggested we try alternative treatments which we have been doing for years. It is certainly a long road to travel . . .
Thanks for your help and words of encouragement!
What about meeting with the school to obviously discuss what happened, and then bring up with you think needs to be in place to help your daughter.
I don't know if she struggles in the classroom, gradewise?
We did get a new start in middle school. My son dealt with social issues/labeling, etc in elementary. So it can happen, but we have things in place for him AND we have talked on the phone with the principal and have met with him. There is a good relationship there. We also met all his teachers and talked about our son.
HE is on a 504 plan, which helps. He needs it for speech. They also have him sitting up front, on the aisle, due to sensory integration. He had an IEP, but doesn't qualify for it.
I will tell you, we wouldn't be where we are today if it wasn't for him taking meds. I am so sorry that you have struggled in that area.
May I ask, did you go to a pedicatrician or psychopharmacologist? The psychopharms specialiaze in ALL these meds. Believe me, there are so many to chose from, to tweak, add a little of this and a little of that to make things right for your needs. What is difficult is that every person is different. What works for one, doesn't always work for another. And then you deal with the dosing. I know how hard it is.
I truly hope things get better. To deal with the adhd stuff, and then add middle school, social stuff, puberty to it, is a lot.
Please let us know how you all are doing.!
It sounds like your daugher is reacting out of frustration due to the demands put upon students at this age in terms of social situations and academic performance. In the absence of effective medication the struggles are many for these children (ESPECIALLY AT THIS AGE) so because life can be so hard for them at times they lash out. Your daughter may be feeling overwhelmed with all the activities and responsiblities she has. This year may be a transitional year for her which that within itself causes anxiety and she may be doing more than she can handle at this time. Talk with her and allow her to express her feelings and then maybe you should consider getting her counseling again in order to deal with all the struggles she is up against at this time. You may also have to lighten her work load. Please keep us posted.
Her routine hasn't changed - it is busy with homework, projects, etc. plus she is in the school play so she has practice for that as well. We tried several strains of meds and didn't have good results - docs said she is in that small % of adhd kids who can't take meds:( We been through behavior training, psychs, etc. over the years (she was diagnosed at age 6) and she had been doing a lot better till this year. She has a few close friends - a few kids who give her a hard time - and the rest just ignore her. She is really immature for her age which i am sure doesn't help.
She is still in school today so I haven't talked to her yet - only got the phone call from the principal.
I just got a call fron the principal - my daughter in 6th grade has been scratching other students. One child kept interupting my daughter while she was talking so she scratched him. One was in her way at the lockers, so she scratched her. Since it left a scratch mark, they had to write up the incidents. Has anyone else had this problem? This is the first year of middle school and it is has been rough.
No we haven't had the problem, but have had it done TO my son. It was horrible.
Are there any changes with your daughter and her routine? Is she taking meds? How is her social life?
Middle school is tough, is she having any troubles of her own? There is so much bullying, especially cyber, going on and in middle school it is bad. And then you add in puberty.
What does she say? Sorry for all these questions. I just want to help.
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