I wanted to thank everyone for their replies. I also want to say that since I decided not to involve myself so deeply in what was going on, my stress level has improved in ways you could ot imagine!@!!!!.
I went outside to get my son and found him playing with his brother, the friend from across the street and 2 other boys and they were outside having a great time. My son did say that one boy pushed him so he kicked him back. Other than that, no problems.
I tried adderal 25mg, up 5 mg from his usual dose and he was an angel child but we also noted he started to tick!!!!! I called the dr and am waiting for them to decide what to do.