feeling stressed and alone | ADHD Information
we're still working on getting my 11 yr old son tested. his school is providing unbelievable help. i'd be lost without them. my 19 yr old son who doesn't live with us has been very supportive and helpful. but my husband works so many hours that we don't have a lot of time to talk and my 13 yr old daughter just thinks we're letting him get away with everything. zac is only going to school 3 hrs a day right now to get the main courses he needs (math, social studies, science). math is the only class he has homework every day. and every day is such a struggle to get that homework done. he's always done so well in math, but now he says it's too hard. (and his principal told me a lot of kids are struggling this year) tonight was the worst so far. he was so frustrated he was near tears. he argued that he didn't have to do it (i had just talked to the teacher on the phone to find out what needed to be done). i did my best to not raise my voice as this never works with him. but then dad got frustrated with all his arguing with me and started to raise his voice. of course zac left the room in tears. i let my husband know that that just makes things worse for him and went to try to calm zac down. the only thing that helped was going and picking up big brother to help with the homework. but i also explained to zac that he won't always be in town and able to help. he calmed down and focused on the work and got it done with very little help. but i still felt so upset. i'm so thankful to have found this group to vent to and hope my husband gets a little down time from work so i can explain more to him as i learn more. thank you so much for letting me ramble on and on and get this off my chest. hi just read your post i can say i know how you feel at the moment i'm just waiting for an appointment for my son to be tested. alot of the things you say about your daughter i have a 14 yr old girl and she is the same thinks my son gets away with so much aswell .my son is 12 he attends his lessons but gets sent out because he is causing a distration in the class so he is not learning to his full protental. his school has a psychologist that comes in once a week i don't know if your son school has this but they can help i also went to my family doctor and explain my problem what it is creating in the family home read as much as you can about adhd and tick boxes with what applies to your son, it does take a while. just keep pushing the school and doctors it will work outaworriedmum & zacharysmum,
Hang in there while you wait the evaluations. I am not a doctor but I am a mother to a 12 yr old adHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHd boy. He was diagnosed just shy of 5. He has been on meds since just shy of 7.
If he wasn't on meds, then he wouldn't have the life he has now. They have truly saved his life! 
He would be a classroom disruption, class annoyance, his social life would be horrific, etc.
His meds help my son to control all of these adhd tendancies. It took us a while to find the right med AND the right dose, but believe me, it was all worth it.
I am glad you are both here. There are lots of moms just like the two of you here as well. We have years of experience mothering our children and dealing with schools and social interactions.
Please ask us any questions or come here and vent.
aworriedmum & bethann
thank you both for your words of support and encouragement. zac is meeting with the school social worker once a week and also has a counselor that comes to our home once a week. the in home counselor is helping us get the appt. set up for the testing. she knows we're not the kind of parents that just want to medicate just so we don't have to deal with it. i know how well being on meds has helped with his depression.
i'm hoping today is a better day without the meltdowns about homework. if anybody has any thoughts or suggestions to help avoid them, i would loooove to hear them.
thank you all again just for being here!!!!! 
As for the family stuff? I think almost all of us here have had those kinds of issues at one point or another. I even get it from extended family. It can be so hard to help others understand what is going on in our kids brains. Especially if you are like me and hardly understand it yourself. How do you explain neuroscience if you aren't a neuropsych? Or even a psychologist?
I appreciate all the support I find here. Sometimes there is criticism, but even that is easier to take from people who are in the same boat. When it is your own family criticizing...well it makes me feel like I am failing my child somehow when I know darn well that isn't the case. Keep it up! Someone has to be proactive, even if it feels like the burden is all yours right now. I'm sure it will get easier with time (and knowledge).
Just remember that time is relative...sometimes an hour with my kid can feel like a lifetime. And sometimes a month goes by with so few glitches that I can't believe it's already gone. Best of luck in your journey and welcome to our world!!!
bethann-i don't know if aworriedmum's child is going 3 hours. it's my son that is.
but i just got a phone call from the school saying that as of tomorrow he will be going back to full days. i'm not sure how he fells, but i'm happy and nervous at the same time. happy that he'll be getting more of the education that he needs but nervous that he may have problems. originally the school said they would slowly work back to full days. kind of a shock for his system. hoping and praying all goes well.
whoopy i now have an accessment appointment which is next week but it now doesn't help that the school have now excluded him for 2 days i wish it would just all hurry up
Do you mean they are taking 2 days of the 3 hours he is there and excluding him? He will only attend 3 hours 3 days a week?
I just don't get how the school attendance laws allow this? He needs to be in school FULL TIME!! 
If they can't educate him, then they need to send him to a private school who is capable of teaching him AND pay for it!
I am so glad you have the appointment.
Please keep us updated!!
sorry zacharysmom for my confusion. I am just so mad that these children are being denied an education.
I am happy that you heard back from the school and he is beginning full days.
If he has ANY struggles THEY need to help him. Keep an eye on him, and them for him!! 
Please let us know how he does, even his first day back. I am concerned and care.
I think they may be just brought him back with no slowing into it because they are in violation of a law, not sure, but it is a thought.
Please update us!!
I will be thinking of you guys today!!
first full day back seemed to go fine. no calls from the school and son said he had a good day. very relieved. glad his day was good because mine wasn't.
seems like everything that could go wrong for me did. isn't that the way it usually goes. but i'm not dwelling on my bad day, i'm celebrating his good day. one step at a time.another good day at school. and my day was good as well.
can you tell i'm happy. lol
looking forward to a fun weekend with the family.
Great to hear that his day went well. I bet you were relieved. This situation and the stress you were having over your son's day may have been a reason to make your day not so great. But I agree, celebrate his day. I would do the same.
Keep in touch with us as he is in school day after day, week after week. I really hope this is a new beginning for him, and you!
Enjoy your weekend with your family.