pls help!! lost with no support | ADHD Information

devillete,

Wow! Several things stood out when I read your situation. First of all, you're not alone. Second, I agree with above that you have your son evaluated and treated accordingly. There are many treatment options that include meds, diet, exercise, councelling, and supplements. Please understand that your son probably can't control these emotions that are inside him. I'm sure he is a beautiful child that just needs guided direction to help him. He doesn't want to behave this way, any more that you want him to. I also suggest a book, "Healing ADD" by Dr. Daniel Amen. It defines 6 types of ADD and gives very specific ways to treat, including parent teaching on how to handle these sometimes "challenging" children. One quick word of advice, I've read (and experienced) that yelling and physical punishment actually stimulate the ADHD child, which is what they crave, so it's best to avoid it if you can(NOT EASY!!!! I know!!!) Hang in there- it gets better. Best of luck to you and your son!!First off, I'm just going to say that you should probably schedule an appointment with a professional who is familiar with this. It can sometimes take a while to get in to see a child psychiatrist, so you might want to check into it right away. My son is #20 on a waiting list, so it is still going to be a long wait for us, but you might have better luck.

My son has anger/aggressive issues as well. But he also has anxiety and spends equal "swings" from crying to fighting when he is in this place. I don't think my own experiences are as extreme as yours, but I can relate to some of what you are saying. The OT at the school described it as being stuck in the primitive/emotional part of the brain and unable to pull himself back into the thinking part of the brain.

Whether or not my son was sad or aggressive had to do with which neurotransmitters were misfiring. Adreneline is responsible for our fight or flight response, and it seems like you are having to deal with the fight part more often than not.

My son was diagnosed by his pediatrician as having ADHD, and we have been trying different meds since November. None of the classic meds worked (they either aggravated his anxiety or made him more aggressive, as well as other side-effects). Our final stab at a med that works is risperidone. We only started on Saturday, but so far he seems to be doing well.

If you read through some of the threads on the "Parents of..." forum, (and maybe even post your story there) you will probably get more responses and/or information that fits into what you are describing. If you want to PM me, I would be happy to listen to anything and everything you might want to say/ask. For now, my reply is getting rather long and I don't want to hog the board (lol), even though I could go on and on. Good luck and best wishes.

hi all,

where to start... my son from a very young age has had a temper, came out at the age of 2/3 when my marriage ended and thought it was because of that. he sarted to get angry, wouldnt listen to anything or anyone, couldnt sit still or consentrate, didnt have any awareness of danger. he would get angry for no reason and throw sofas around the living room, my daughters cot around the bedroom, wait at the top of the stairs and purposly throw skateboards and anything else big and hard down the stairs at her (only 1/2 at the time). i thought it was just a stage and he was confused because my ex had left, all i got from my parent was that it must be me, i was doing something wrong and for a long time i believed it until he started at their house one day and i think they started to get worried too. he started getting better, not an angel by any means but at least the angry bursts had stopped.

i met my partner 3 yrs ago and now have a 1 and 2yr old who my son loves more than anything. he is now nearly 8 and the abger has come back but worse. he breaks doors, bottles of perfume, anything really he can get his hands on. he has gone to attack the babies a few times but at home i ca handle him, he knows when he starts to feel angry he goes upstairs until he's calmed down but last night he started wilst we were out. nothing too bad just being silly near roads, trying to rip up his bus ticket etc. when the bus finally turned up he didnt want to get on then he didnt want to sit on a seat but on the stairs. i finally got him on a seat and sat next to him to stop him running off everytime we stopped but he started punching himself in the head and face. i held his wrists thru his coat to stop him hurting himself (i have arthritis co cant hold on that tight but it kinda worked!) he then tried to bend his own fingers back so i had to keep his arms apart, then it was headbutting himself and  me to get me off him so he could hit himself again  

he then started screaming i was hurting him, breaking his bones, why was i doing this to him, digging my nails in and pushing my elbow into his chest and neck so he couldnt breath (which i wasnt obviously)

then some woman got off and told him 'dont worry son u'll soon be 16 and be able to leave home' i asked her if she ever had to deal with this sort of violence in a child and she claimed to work for social services and i should never of restrained him. i feel useless and dont know what to do.

i work as a family support worker voluntary and one of my familes has a child like this and i believe he has ADHD but no-one will listen to me other than the ones that have seen him like it.

pls help