Desperate mother of 14 yr old boy | ADHD Information

Hello.  I just joined this forum and I feel desperate and alone.  I have no support in dealing with my 14 yr old son.  He argues that he doesn't have a problem and my husband doesn't believe in ADHD either.   My son is very smart, yet does poorly in school and I am so frustrated because nothing has helped over the 4 years that we have been battling this.  We have tried Strattera, Focalin and Vyvance with no improvement, 2 different therapists, behavior modification, rewards, punishment, and everything else you can think of.  I am tired and empty. 

What worries me even more is that most of the people I have talked to or who are on this board started dealling with this problem with younger kids.  My son will be starting high school next year and I don't see how he will be able to cope.  The latest suggestion that I got was to have him followed by a psychiatrist for meds instead of the pediatrician.  I can tell you that will be another big argument with my husband. 

I am desperate and tired and I get no help or support from anyone.  It is so hard to watch my son fail and get worse.  Anything anyone here can offer would be so greatly appreciated.    

 

My son is one of those younger kids, but I'm not and my brother isn't. If someone had made a fight for us when we were kids, I think we would both be better off. That's why I'm am doing everything I can to help my son.

It's so hard to not have support. I am a single mother and I live with my parents. My dad is just starting to realize that my brother and I struggled. For that matter, he struggled...but back in the 50's they just beat it out of them.

Just by finding this message board you are doing something. I try and tell my son every day that he is special and I am fond of him. All the therapy and meds are minuscule compared to my love for him. But I am doing everything I can to make sure that he is educated and is able to function socially on (at least) a minimal level.

Whatever the fight, it will be worth it. I think a psychiatrist is the best bet, because they study the chemical structure of the brain...not just the social (psychological) stuff...but my son is still on a waiting list to see one, so I can't say this from experience.

I hope you and your son figure out the best way to deal with this. It never is easy. Hugs.

M

dear Slimm  ..

 

i have my nephew whom i believe has ADHD.. he is 16years old.. he is not taking any med.. yet.. when his parents or mine try to get him to do anything against his well.. we promise him with big things he dreams of.. as an encouragement from our side..