Bus stop problem | ADHD Information

What's the timing of when he takes his medication? My son takes his about
10 minutes before he leaves for the bus and he is pretty rowdy waiting for it.
I have to pick my battles - so long as he doesn't go in the street, get filthy,
or hurt another child, I let him run the whole time. He's got to sit still for
quite a while on the bus, after all.My son has been having some difficulty at the bus stop. over the past
few weeks i've observed him being hyper, making the fifth grade girls
chase him all over the yard, into the street (a quiet road, not a safety
concern), into the driveway. I can see that he is having a blast running
and being chased, but I have to imagine that it gets old for the ten
year old girls. I had a long talk about being a good friend and what
that looks like. I explained that he is bothering them, and he needs to
stand at the bus stop with the kids but not make them chase him.

It rained the past couple of mornings so he wasn't out there for long.
Today was the first day he went out at regular time. This time he
wasn't overly hyper. Nope. This time he stood next to the tree away
from everybody. I went out to nudge him towards the group. He loudly
complained that no one was looking at him. (They were all standing in
line calmly). I reminded him that "good bus stop behavior" means
talking to the other children, calmly, without running around. He was
inappropriate - to the opposite extreme, but inappropriate all the
same.

Did I step over the line by telling him he was bothering them? Is
finding a middle ground inherently difficult for our kids?  I think finding the middle ground is very hard for our kids, but I've also come to realize that it's something they usually have to find on their own.  My son is 11 and I really don't think that all my prompting, prodding and "talking to" had much effect at all.  It takes time and experience.

As far as bothering the older girls, they may not be bothered at all- it looks like he's still young enough for them to think he's a cute little guy.  Maybe you could just discretely let them know that if they get tired of chasing him they can just tell him that they're done now, but maybe will play again the next day?  Then you can just keep an eye out to make sure he leaves them alone if they request it.

Our elementary bus stop is in front of my house- my son doesn't ride it anymore but his sister does.  We have about 15 kids who get on here and they usually start arriving 1/2 an hour before the bus just so they can run around, play basketball, tag, etc, before school- it's crazy out there. 
My husband agrees with the posts - I should let go of worrying about
whether my son uses self control at the bus stop. Thanks for the
honest feedback. You're right - all the kiddoes let loose at the bus
stop.