Don’t want to vacation anymorei | ADHD Information
We went to Disney last weekend. Walking around everywhere wasgreat; lines and travel were horrible.
Can you take turns overseeing him? Can you make him do some physical
activities to burn off some energy?
I'd say daylight hours should be spent catering to your son and relaxation
comes at night when he's asleep. Maybe take a vacation without him next
time.
I'm so used to it now I'd be bored out of my mind if I didn't have my crazy
acting kid. Of course, I'd be suicidal if I didn't get "alone time" every day...Well, my son was sitting in the other room with my younger son and
his friend. The friend went for some chips and my son is telling him
not to touch the food!! Then my son comes and tells me the friend bit
him but neglects to say he stuck his hand in his mouth. Etc etc etc
etc...this is what vacation is for us. I am so tired and stressed out at
the end. I just wish he could get along for 5 days!!!!Vacation? I think it's only called that if you don't have kids with you. Actually, that holds true for other things that should be relaxing, like: shopping, bike-riding, going to church, visiting with friends, watching a movie, reading a book, etc.
I don't think others realize how stressful it is to do these things with your kids. BUT I look forward to the day when I can enjoy these things again. Who knows...it might even be before they're all grown-up.
BETHANN, WHAT COUNTRY ARE YOU IN? I'M IN AUSTRALIA AND IT'S 11.30PM HERE SO I'M JUST HEADING OFF TO BED. YOUR COMMENT ABOUT BEING AT PEACE WITH WHO YOUR SON IS, IS A BEAUTIFUL STATEMENT. IT'S NOT EASY BUT THAT'S WHERE I STIVE TO BE......MY SON WAS ONLY DIAGNOSED APPROX 5 MONTHS AGO ADHD AND FOR ALL THOSE YEARS PRIOR, WE THOUGHT WE HAD RAISED A LITTLE RASCAL! I AM STILL LEARNING ALOT ABOUT ADHD AND HAVE READ ABOUT 15 BOOKS AND CONSUME ALOT OF MY TIME READING AND LEARNING ALL I CAN ABOUT IT. IT HELP'S ME TO SEE AND HEAR OTHER KIDS DO THE SAME THINGS AS MY SON AND THAT WILL HELP ME IN ACCEPTING IT ALL. I KNOW I NEED TO BACK OFF, RELAX AND ACCEPT AND READING YOUR POST HAS MADE ME REALISE THE IMPORTANCE OF DOING THAT ASAP. THANKS AND I'M OFF TO BED. GOODNIGHT (OR GOOD DAY!)
CANDYCANE
Vacations are not really vacations with an adhd child- they always seem to take so much more effort/ intense planning/ constant vigilance. We got fed up with DS making everyone else miserable if every little thing didn't go exactly as he wanted. Unfortunately, even at 11 he has no problem yelling, screaming, and crying in public. He's even been known to sit down in the middle of a parking lot and refuse to move until drug away by myself and DH- typically we'd just walk away, but it being a parking lot and all. . .We now "vacation" at home. We live near Baltimore so there's actually a lot we can do with day trips, being only a couple of hours from both DC and Philly and having lots of awesome state parks. I know it's not really an option for everyone, but if you can pull it off I highly recommend it- it's much more relaxing.
And the best part is that we're saving tons of money which will being going toward a real honeymoon for DH and I- I was 3 month pregnant with #2 when we got married so we only got away for a weekend.
I am on vacation at a beautiful resort with my neighbors and their 2
kids. My child is his usual self and although we have tried to keep him
occupied all the time, that really isn't possible. Although there have
been many instances of his behavior, last night threw me into a spin
and I wish we were going home already. We were at a sing a long
campfire and my sons friend bumped into him. So what happenned?
My son had a meltdown and started to CRY and go in about how this
friend was mean to him in the past and started this whole thing so I
walked away because i could no longer enjoy myself. The other child
walked away and I said to my child as he asked to stay up late" why
would you get so upset and start all this drama cause he bumped into
you? Everyone was looking foward to this campfire all day and it was
ruined for everyone. Why?". He said he didn't know but can he go
play ping pong!!!! I made him go straight to bed. I don't even want to
make the effort to vacation anymore as u always have high
expectations and they are always crushed in the end. Am I the worst
or what?
I think you sound tired, frustrated.
Your son is your son. He is who he is. He is only 9 1/2 and still quite young and immature.
I would have let him go play ping pong and moved on. You can let some of this stuff just roll off you.
Don't dwell on so many of these kid things, they are happening with others as well.
your son sounds sensitive, and may be you are as well. I don't think he did anything wrong except get emotional, which could also be due to him being overtired from the vacation.
Hang in there, I know we all have our days.
Oh Longsally, I can so relate to your post. My son is about a year younger than your son and my son also has adhd. If someone accidently does something to my son he is in my face telling me all about it and can get emotional and start saying the "other person" was being mean etc........As for holidays etc........I know whatever we do and whereever we go, something happens. I wonder why I bother at time's too! I did have to chuckle though at your post where all this drama is going on and your son ask's to play ping pong! Thereagain, something my son would do too. Bethann, I wish I could be like you with what you stated in your post. Bethann, you sound more accepting of behaviours/issue's than I probably am and that's a good thing. I am trying to be more accepting and relax a little about it all. Longsally, if your'e still on vacation, hope you have some good times anyway.
Candycane
Thank you candycane for understanding my post. I worried whether my post wouldn't sound comforting to Longsally, whom I have known on these boards for a long time and consider her a friend.
I am very sensitive to having and adhd son and all he/we have been through. I absolutely love my children. I am accepting of the things that occur and my reason is that they are children.
Things happen, just let it go. We can't change them because lord knows we would if we could!
I have come to peace with who my son is and I dearly love him.