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Although this does not pertain to my situation i though agree with Corrina in saying that stopping completly is not a good idea. and this could go on for many years thus to put your life on hold you will be holding forever. I'm not sure what else to say but good luck to you and yours.

 

Good Morning everyone-

I haven't posted on here in quite a while, but I knew I could come here for some good advice with a situation I am having.

My son is 9 yrs old, and is ADHD.  He has been having more problems than usual in school, and his attitude towards me really sucks.  It has been a rough road lately...

I am currently in school, attempting to get into the nursing program.  I try my best to focus on my schoolwork, but it is very difficult when parenting an ADD child.  My grades are not reflecting my ability, and it is hurting my chances of getting into the clinical program.

I am thinking about taking a break until he starts middle school.  I am hoping to help him more, and also get better grades when I start back again.  It sounds like I am rambling, I guess my question is: Should I take a break from school?  I am working so hard to build a good life for my son and I, and to make a career for myself so I can provide for him like I truly should.  Do I stop?

I don't want to stop working on my goals, but I don't want him to suffer either.  It is a hard decision to make.  I am 31 years old and I want to get my career started.

Any advice would be great, you all give great advice on here.  I feel so stuck.  What is the better choice?  For him and for me?

I went to school when my son was first diagnosed. But when he was at
his worst I was self employed, so I could make my own schedule and be
there when he needed me.

I don't think you should put your life on hold to "fix" your son. It's never
going to happen - you'll wait forever.

But if you're at a transition point and you really think a couple of months
of intensive work with your son might turn him around, you could delay
your studies for a while.

But if I were you I would definitely not stop completely. It won't solve
anything, and you might end up resenting him.I agree - don't stop!  Even if you took fewer classes or a lighter workload, at least you are still working towards your goal.  As a parent of a middle school adhd-er - don't wait until he starts middle school.  Middle school brings a whole new set of issues - good and bad - you and he will have to deal with.  Good luck!I can relate to you 100%. I have just gone through an RN program as a single mother of 2. (Im proud to say I pulled it off)
DONT STOP!!! You will come out so much stronger and sure of yourself at the end. Its not easy and will test every limit you have, but its worth it. Its not only something you are doing for YOU, but an investment into your child's future.

My son was exhibiting poor behaviors during this time as well, but even when I was a stay at home mom, he did that too. Being in school doesnt change the fact that they have ADHD/ADD...

Take it each day at a time, you can do it!