Need some suggestions/help/advie please | ADHD Information

I can totally relate having a housefull of adhd'ers lol. it is just too much for me sometimes, a rough road, but a positive attitude goes along way. Alot of goood info here Welcome and join along.....Marbles actually work great with this age group- they love to count them, sort them and especially to "buy" prizes with them.  It's been a really long time since I read the marble thread, so I don't remember all the details, but you just modify it to fit your kids.  You can buy little trinkets or stickers, or they can "buy" extra tv or computer time. 

A while back I came across a book called The Kazdin Method.  It's explains the most effective (research backed) ways to shape behavior.  It's kind of time consuming at first, but VERY effective if you follow it through.

Couple of practical tips for rooms:

Get rid of all the toys they don't use often- my son was actually much happier with fewer toys.

Decide how important it really is; we ended up with a compromise- there must a clear path from the bed to the door in case of emergencies.  The other areas get picked up once a week.

I also have to remind myself that I shouldn't have higher expectations for my kids when it comes to cleaning their room than I have for myself.  If there's always a pile of clutter or dirty laundry in my room, than I should probably overlook it in the kids' rooms as well.   
    I absolutely agree with jaderock54. Really trim down the toys - helps a ton.
I invested in bins from Target and had each "type" of toy go in each bin. I
have about 8 bins in his room. I require him to "tidy up" each morning as
part of his routine. My definition of tidy up is that nothing is on the floor
but furniture. Once a week or so, I have him do a more thorough organizing
- always defining exactly what I mean. Put all legos in the bins, put all
books away orderly in the bookshelves, etc. Depending on time and mood, I
may only focus on one item, or one area of the room (i.e., top of dresser).

My son is 11. We have done this for over 3 years so it is now a habit. His
room is FAR from perfect, but at least it isn't a war zone.thanks for the help! i know i have to get in there and seriously get rid of stuff.  i was thinking of getting rid of the toy boxes and going to the "bins system" those rack things that hold the small plastic colored bins.  Label each bin so he knows what goes where.  That way, he can only have a certain amount of toys for each "category" and he can pick his favorites that he wants and we give the rest away.  I did just order some books from amazon.com, one for my son and I to read together, it's an understanding adhd books geared towards kids, and then two more for me and my husband to read, or rather for me to read and then tell him about it lol.
it is definately hard and stressful most days, as my hubby is not on any type of meds, and neither are the kids, yet!  I also know when my brother was on meds when he was younger, there was not much to choose from, and that in the years since then there have been alot of advances in treatments.  what are some good sites to go to to find out more about current treatments?  as severe as my son is, i know we are going to have no choice about putting him on meds, as we have tried behavior mods and diet and such since he was 2 with no success. 
and you would think that with my husband having add that he would be more understanding about what our kids are going through, but seems to be just the opposite.  i am the type of person who has to read and research EVERYTHING, so I have done alot of reading in the last few years, but most of the time, when i tell him about different techniques/diets/ behavior mods/etc, he isn't consistant with it at all, which i know is part of his add, but it just gets so stressful and aggravating at times.  pretty much my only form of support in this is my mom, having gone through it with my brother, and as much as i love and appreciate her help, sometimes there is just stuff even she doesn't understand or i just don't feel comfortable talking to her about, especially the problems i have trying to get through to the DH.  i figured this would be a great site to help fill in those gaps for me, especially on those days that i just want to give up and run away from home lol.
Hi there.  I am new to the site, but not new to ADHD/ADD.  I am a 31 year old mother of 2.  My brother (29) was diagnosed at age 8, on meds by age 12.  My husband (35) was diagnosed around age 7, ritlan for a little while, then pulled off and his mother used the goldstein diet from then on.  My son is currently 6 years old and even though not yet diagnosed, he has already started his testing (we know he has it lol) and my daughter who is 4 (too young for testing) also has it.  My question is.....how to better organize the kids bedrooms? They both have their own rooms.  Lots of toys.  The problem is keeping it all together, and their rooms cleaned up.  We try to make them take most of the responsibility for their toys, keeping their rooms cleaned up etc., but due to the ADHD this is very difficult for both of them.  I also read about the  "marbles" plan, but does anyone have any suggestions that are similar that would work better for a 4 and 6 year old?  Since it has been a while since I have had to really deal with these types of issues or just ADHD in general, would also appreciate any up to date websites dealing with up to date treatments, meds, alternatives, and coping and dealing with 2 kids and a spouse with ADHD, as all the stuff I know about is 20 years old or better lol.  I have been cruising around the site, reading posts, and am so glad that I found this site.   And due to the fact that my DH also has ADHD, there is not really anyone else around me, except for my mom, that I can vent to or who can understand what I am going through with the DH and the kids.  Kudos to the makers of this site!!!  Look forward to chatting with some of you!