I am a married 27 yr old morther of three. My oldest is 12, she has always been a fast learner, very smart, kind hearted, always helps out and tries to do the right thing. The youngest is our boy which is 5. He is also very sweet, kind hearted and learns very fast. Our middle child is 8. She has ADD. She is mean to the other two even though they try really hard to play with her, she is controling and something that scared me alot is at 8 years old she is always trying to get attention, from boys. She seems to only want to do what I try to tell her is wrong. I am so lost at this point. I have known she has had ADD for a few years as I know very well the symptoms since I have it also. The thing is it is starting to get bad. I don't know what to do. My husband and I try very hard to give her extra attention and love but its not working very well. I am scared to put her on drugs and scared to not. I dont know what to do. I just look at her and cry all the time because I cant help her. I worry that she is going to grow up into a bad person because she doesnt seem to care about other people, only herself. I feel like I am failing her. It hurts me to feel like she has no heart. She also lies all the time with no remorse. If anyone could help guide me I would be so grateful. I'm so tired of crying and hurting. Thank you
May be the meds are not right in dosage or even the right med. I am going through puberts ADHHHHHD and a highly intelligent young 11.5 year old son. He has defiance disorder. he is mean and disrespctful and acually attacked me in the car while I was driving
He has a phycologist 1 hour a week, A psychiatrist for meds, and we went through many different meds till we found the one for us, Concerta has always been good for him and Zoloft for anxiety and Inuniv to calm him and make him less stressed.
You need to have yours treated by a psychiatrist or psychoparm, or neuropsych to get the meds right. then you need to gather a good parenting pact. how you can help, I reccommend a book calle The Explosive Child by Dr. Ross Greene not sure about spelling of authour last name but there are many of us here that can pint you in the direction that is best. A family doc is not informed enough to deal with ADHD and any co-exsisting Disorders like defiant disorder or adhd thing and such. find the right DOCTOR! I have been in your position not knowing what to do, Just take a deep breath and get youself to the right doc this will help thing right away usually. my son is the same way as your girl (girl right) we just ook away eveything my son loves. his tv, his gaming systems, his Ipod, and many other things. he knopw needs to earn them back with positive begaivior, he has his tv back and today he will get something else. he has been caming with Boy Scouts this weekend and my huby says he is doing great!
It is a long hard road we have all been on some of us longer than others. good luck
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spamula40279.3731365741Thank you so much for your post. We havent found a great doctor yet. The ones we have been to just sit and let her color or paint. They dont really ever talk to her about things. I know she needs time spent with her but I would like to see someone try to address the problem. I was also thinking about finding more info on that big brother big sister program. Did the meds really help them not be so mean? Thats what I am really worried about. I dont mind the hyperness or having to go over stuff so many times, I just dont want her to grow up being a hateful person. . . . After reading all the post I could last night I ordered some Phosphatidyl Serine. I thought I would try that out and see how that goes. I am just praying for something to work at this point. But I dont want to make the wrong choice either. . . .My son's first therapist was useless - she didn't want to deal with his
Thank you :) I am really glad I found this forum. Reading everyones post and the "rides" they have been on has really given me hope. When I came here last night I was in tears and at the end of my rope. Now I feel like this cloud has lifted. I think I needed to hear from other people in this situation who is "treating" the issue with good results. This is the first time I have heard from any other parents of kids with ADD. I guess its true, support helps lol
I had never really thought about the short temper being due to the constant pulling of thoughts. I guess I was thinking more along the lines of not learning lifes lessons due to the inablity to focus. But I can completley relate to the way you explained it. I cant thank you all enough!!!! You have no idea what this 24 hours has done for me. Thank you :)
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