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First, I totally agree that you shouldn't change or adjust the medication without consulting your doctor.  Give the doc all of the information and your concerns and let him/her make the professional call.

Second, I have to disagree with sexy_leo1977. If your child is correctly diagnosed with ADHD and medication helps the symptoms then you should absolutely use medication to make your child's life easier (and in turn, yours)!  Why wouldn't you? If your child was schizophrenic and hallucinating you wouldn't keep medication from her because she should learn better techniques to control the hallucinations without medication to help.  It's something that she just doesn't have control over.

With my son, he CANNOT control his behavior without medication and he's miserable almost all of the time without it.  When he's not on meds, his self esteem is awful and he hates himself because he's always in trouble.  When he is on his medication he is a happy well adjusted kid!  The medication doesn't take the place of parenting by any means, but it helps his brain slow down enough that he learns from disiplin and redirection (something he NEVER did before!). It allows him to learn lessons that come much easier to other kids.  Trying to parent my child without medication is madness!   

[QUOTE=sexy_leo1977]  i would not up the medicine to calm her to help you guys out  in her eyes it is form of punishment that she does not understand.   [/QUOTE]

I also disagree with this quote.  There is nothing wrong with giving her medication to calm her.  And my son never thinks his medication is a punishment!  If the medication makes your daughter feel better then I have no doubt she knows it and she won't see it as a punishment!

I'm sorry to hear about your husband.  I think it is natural for your daughter to be our of sorts with different people coming in and out and having difficulty dealing with all that is happening.

I think that you should have a schedule of activities for the kids to do.  Make it known that you need someone with the children, that will follow the schedule.  My kids love when we play games, because they are getting attention.

The medication would be something to discuss with her doctor.  I would also add that one summer I took my son off the medicine, thinking it only helps with school.   Well, that was one rough summer and he now takes it 7 days per week, year round.

I hope that helps.  It's good that you are reaching out to express your worries about your daughter. You are dealing with a lot.  Don't hold it all in!

First, I'm very sorry about your husband.  What a horrible thing to have to go through for all of you! 

Some people may believe that medication is only for school but I couldn't disagree more!  My son has his medication 24 hours a day 7 days a week because he NEEDS it soooooooo badly! If your daughter's behavior is disruptive at home due to ADHD then there is absolutely no reason not to give her some relief by giving her medication during that time too!  Trust your gut feelings about your daughter and try not to let the family's feelings interfere with doing what's best for her.  They don't have to know that you're increasing the dose anyway do they?

Hang in there and please come here for support.  We are all here for each other!   

Logan'sMom40292.5321759259i understand how you feel, i lost my dad last year to a l s and my son has adhd, tics, and ocd.  he was very close to my dad and knew eerything going on even when i tried to keep him from knowing.  but they are the ones with the diease not us so in the same sense him being in pain  she is too because we will never understand what is going on with them, understanding we are trying but unless you are that person you won't.  also she is hurting that is her dad and not understanding herself what to feel, see, and act is hard enough.  i would not up the medicine to calm her to help you guys out  in her eyes it is form of punishment that she does not understand.  they have a million things going on in their head at once and not that they can phyically slow down they can't mentally.  i see why family is mad have her stay with family so she feels comfortable.  when they feel uncomfortable they act worse that is why she seems off the wall.  activities and games are good helping you fold things or wash dishes.  that helps their mind calm down  maybe she is getting use to the norm  and needs new ideas.  that is what i did and still do with my son  and sports  was the best thing ever and he is a excellent athelete  and you are not the doctor you can not self medicate a kid  call the doctor and let them know what is going on  but do not use medicine as a comfort or restraint.  my son is on tenex 1 mg twice a day and it helps but not take it away completely  i help to calm him which is what my doctor suggested  dont let the medicine do all the work  you step in and help it is exhausting i know i hear my son making noises threw the baby mnitor all night but come down to her level and see what is going on  you might need a person to talk to  my son does and it helps him get out all his issues.   sexy_leo197740291.8511921296

Hi there im having a bit of a rough time at the moment , my husband is very sick and not expected to live very long, i have two lovey daughters 10 and 6 the 6 year old has ADHD and of late gotton out of contoll, i have tryerd very hard to keep things consistant for her but quiet frankly her life has been turned upside down, and differnt people are coming and all the time.

Imade the decision to up her meds as a trial to 36mg from 27mg concerta under much heartasche from the family (they were not happy) but as sick as my hubby was he wanted this and i went with it.

i do alot of other work woth kate to like working with her interests rather thsn, tv and she has concequeses for her actions and time out, and i do understand that the medicationis really only for school but can someone tell me please

What about that effects on  the family and the child at home does that not come into to it???

 

 

hi all i thank you all for your constructive comments and after reading them all i think i have done the right thing even in her behavior she is not a zombie and has settled a bit but yes coping with lots as we all are in this this family at the monent.

 

thank you.

tasha xx