"don’t get me wrong" | ADHD Information

Guess I'm not through venting.

I am so annoyed that ADHD parents feel compelled to validate the
negative observations made about their kids! I've been reading through
posts and one after the other says some variation of "I know my kid's not
perfect, but that's no excuse for abuse/neglect/dismissing him." Argh!

Can you imagine if parents were hauled into school twice a year for
academic review where they had to justify the to the school that their kid
needed to be taught?

"Yes, I know he only got a C in English, that's why he needs to take an
English class next year - you can't not teach him just because he hasn't
learned it yet - he needs someone to teach him, he can't just pick it up on
his own - I understand that you don't teach English at your school, you
give kids the books so they have the tools to do it on their own, but my
child needs to be taught how to read!"

I'm just over this. Schools have the ability to do so much more, and they
just want to stick to the easy status quo, do as little as possible, blame
the kids and the parents, throw up their hands and pretend it's not their
problem.

Yes, I know, I need a glass of wine (or a valium) and to sleep this hopeless
mood off. I'm working on it.    I've said it before, but I'll say it to you as well, I love hearing other parents vent. It makes you so real to me. And it makes how I feel more real to me.

Also, just to combine two posts into one response, I can understand how you feel about "not doing anything" about the bullying and the SID. My younger son has Down syndrome and I thought my older son's behaviors were just him reacting to all the attention that was lavished on the younger one. Attention seeking boy that he is.

When ds1's teacher this year finally pointed out that he couldn't concentrate, let alone get any work done, I started to make the connection between his behaviors and ADHD. Also, Ds2 has been getting OT for sensory issues since birth, but ds1 got shafted...how horrible did I feel about that.

I'm pretty much over it now, because I realize that very few local docs would have done anything for him before now because he is so bright that he could "fake it" well enough to "pass". That said, there are still days when I wake up feeling frustrated, inadequate, irritated, etc. And then I come on this board and realize that it's perfectly normal to feel those things.

And by the time I'm done reading I already feel more proactive and sane. So thank you.