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Thanks Corrina for your quick reply. I have printed out your post and some time over the weekend, we as a family are going to sit down and have a "family meeting" to discuss this and I will look at the post on the marble system. Thanks again.

Marlene

It takes a while to break bad habits. The pills aren't like waving a magic
wand - if a child has a habit it will take a lot of effort to change it. That's
what the behavior modification techniques are about. There is a pinned
post about the marble technique that you can read.

Some advice about it:

1) Tackle one behavior at a change.
2) Talk about it a lot - your child will need very explicit instructions and
results expectations, and will have to be reminded about it maybe 20
times a day.
3) When it becomes second nature - which could take weeks to achieve -
try another behavior.
4) Let your child come up with the reward - if he wants it bad enough it
will motivate him to make the changes.
5) Keep some things from being taken away - for example, I never "send
my son to bed without dinner," he gets read to every night, he can always
go outside to play. Things he can lose are TV, computer, game time,
things like that.

Also, structure is key. Your child needs to know what to expect and if
something out of the ordinary will happen.

Kids with ADHD need to be formally taught social skills. When other kids
"picked them up" ADHD kids' brains were buzzing and it took all their
energy just to focus, so they didn't have any brain power left over. Don't
ever have an expectation that you don't talk to your child about, and
remind them about. If your child seems confused, give examples or do
role playing - practice, practice, practice. Schools can help with this, too
- my son has been in social groups at school off and on for the past 2
years.

Good luck!

Hi, I am new here but have had a read of posts over the past week or so. I have an 8.5 yr old son with adhd and only diagnosed about 6 mths ago and started meds around 4 months ago. All those years of just thinking we had a difficult child have certainly taken it's toll on my marriage. Nonetheless, were doing the best we can for our son (and daughter, who is not adhd). Whilst I have noticed a huge improvement with my son on the med's, some of his behaviour's are still disruptive. Our main issue at the moment is the constant "backchat" and everything we ask him to do is "just a minute" or "I'll just finish this first" and the other day my hubby was trying to talk to my son and my son picked up the tv remote and turned on the tv to watch and my hubby asked my son (in a louder voice) to turn it off and listen to what he was saying and my son say's "But your'e annoying me".  I could go on and on and on................I read a post here a few day's ago and someone said they gave a marble to their child each time he/she did something without arguing. I am going to try this but can others tell me what they do for these issue's, please?

1.  If you have to ask your child more than once or twice and still dosnt do or say's they'll just finish what they're doing or in a minute

2.  What do you do for backchat (I know alot could be ignored but my daughter see's/hear's it and then she start's doing it too especially if we ignore it!)

3. Does anyone take marbles away for certain behaviours after they have been earn't or find some other punishment?.

4.  What do you do regarding teaching your child appropriate "social" skills as my son tends to lack these and can be very silly/immature. When we try to talk to teach our son, he get's frustrated (as what I said before, he turned on tv and said my hubby was annoying him when hubyy was trying to discuss some of his behaviours with his friend)

Any advice would be appreciated and thanks for reading this post.

Marlene

 

hi my 8 year old son is exactly the same i thought it was because of  his adhd till i see his friends at school and they all back chat, not sure in your childs case but i think at this age they just get attitude, or get things off there friends.< id="gwProxy" ="">< ="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" ="">