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Hi, I'm fairly new here and just posted a intro post about a week ago. Just a bit of background again, my son is 8 1/2 yrs old and diag ADHD and has only been on meds for about 5 months now. We thought they were working moderately well however, in the past 2 weeks my son's behaviour has been at it's worst since starting the med's. We are now having more and more issue's happening at school. I spoke to my son's teacher this morning and she and the parents of a boy in class had a meeting with the principal. Turn's out my son is teasing, taunting and name calling this boy and the teacher did say all the boy's in the class are involved however, my son's name pop's up each time and too often. Previously nothing was documented before but from now on they will document it and over a period of time, see if they can see a pattern to the behaviour.

I did ask the teacher for specific's but she couldnt really help and this is why they are going to document everything. She did say my son makes threats like "If you do that, Im going to tell my mum and she will tell you off".

I have an appt next week and Im going to try different med's and talk the specialist. In the meantime, I am going to try to see a counsellor/physciatrist or whatever specialist needed for my son as no matter how much we try to talk to him about the right and wrong behaviours, he still does it.

My son seems to play with a large group of kids at school but one on one, he has no real friends and I just don't know what to do.  Both me and my husband are feeling so lost and depressed and to be quite honest, just feel like giving up.

My son just seem's like so much hard work and I look at all the other kids at school just getting on with and enjoying their live's.

Is anybody able to offer any advice or have a similar story or know what to do?I feel like I need to train my son in social skills as he dosnt seem to have any but my son get's fed up when we try to explain things like this to him.

Sorry for rambling on......

Marlene

If it's happening since he started the medication I'd say the medication isn't
working - call the doctor and explain the situation. See about trying
another one.

The first medication my son tried made him much worse. The second one -
the one he takes now - is completely awesome.

Don't settle - keep going until you find the right one.

Good luck!I think he would benefit from social skills training but it probably won't have much of an effect until the medication is right.  When my son is not medicated (or the meds aren't right) he is soooooooooo hyper and impulsive that he literally cannot control his goofy or "in your face" behavior most of the time.  I would correct him all day long and he just couldn't comply even if he wanted to.  Definitely see a specialist about the meds.  If he's still having problems, then they are not working!That does not sound good to me, and would put me on the offensive big time.
As far as the social skills, here in the US you'd call Speech and Language therapy centers and ask if they are conducting social skills classes. They are generally not advertised. Alternatively you could play-act various conflict resolutions. Books targeted at autistic children frequently contain the appropriate content that you are looking for so google some of those websites.

As far as the school goes, I'd take up documenting as well. You need to defend your son since they have now announced that he's under the microscope -- which is often biased. If there is an incident at school interview him and document what he says immediately. Also, each and every time, ask if they also talking to other boys in the class and looking for behavior patterns with other children. Heck, ask flat out if they are discriminating against your son. They are putting him under the microscope, so make sure that they know you are watching, tracking, and analyzing. If they communicate something to you that your son reports differently, immediately send an email detailing your child's version of the situation. If you don't, he has no voice! You are his voice. Leave nothing unopposed if there is a basis for objection. At school, if it's not documented, it did not happen. Remember that.Jessica N40336.845162037Your son is young and does need you to advocate for him. However, please
do not close your eyes to what's happening.   Behaviors never change if we
do not acknowledge them. It is his future you are looking towards.