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Yes, they often are intense, bossy, overbearing and liking things to go their way. I notice this when they are what I call "out of balance." This happens more so when they don't get enough sleep, nutritional food, are hungry, stressed, or have too much unstructured time.

Hi, Im back with a few more questions. One of the issue's my son is having is being so full on, intense, bossy, overbearing and liking things to go his way. Is this a common trait of ADHD?

I found out today at school he platyed with some kids who were in grade 1 and my son is in grade 3 so these kids are around 2 years behind in age level. Do any of your children play with kids in a lower grade.............or two!

Thanks

Marlene

Yes, and yes. It is very common for kids with ADHD to not be able to deal
with transitions well - transitions like kids playing a game that takes an
unexpected turn. As far as younger friends, it could be that your child has
been shunned by his peers, which is very common, but also lots of kids with
ADHD have social delays, so socially they are at the same level as kids a few
years younger than them.I'm a 47 y.o. adult with ADHD and some of my best friends are in their 20s!  I always got along better with kids who were younger than me.  I think it has something to do with the immature development of the brain.  I, on the other hand, was easily intimidated, meek, struggled with rejection, the butt of many jokes, picked on.  I would have much rather been the bossy one.

It's very common that ADHD kids relate better to younger kids because many times they are emotionally behind by at least a few years.  My son ALWAYS goes to the younger kids in a crowd.  I think he just relates better to them.

As far as bossy, overbearing etc.-Yes, this is also very common with ADHD (and especially my son!)  Once we got his medications straightened out most of this went away!

Children with ADHD had a 30% maturity lag so as others here have said, yes, this is very common.