New here, need help with cognitive proble | ADHD Information

Maybe your learning style is with a patient person who can give you more attention than the average person needs.

Find your learning style, and use it the best you can.  Line up tutors, if that is how you learn.   So many people are out of work or under-employed, should be plenty of tutors for most everything available.  Nice thing about a bad economy.

 

 

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Otter40380.6734375I am new here. I came here because I don't know where else to get help. I don't know how to handle ABUSE when someone gets angry because I cannot learn fast enough, or pick up a new skill right away.

I have seen a neurologist in the past for problems I had forgetting things, getting easily confused and distracted. He wanted to do a CAT scan of my brain, I just never went back.

I have problems learning new skills. I can learn, it just takes me a few times. Then I get it. I will NOT get it right away. That is not going to happen. I've had a few instructors who verbally abused me when I couldn't pick up something immediately. One time was in a beginner's knitting class. I learned the casting on,but couldn't pick up the knit stitch right away. The instructor belittled me in front of everyone in the class,then tried to humiliate me by pointing out that everyone else had gotten it right. They had all knitted half a scarf, while I was still struggling to learn one stitch. She got very ugly and then said "well this is just not for you, why don't you just leave the class".
Someone offered to teach me and I learned through her, eventually.  I now knit all the time, btw.
This is just one incident, there have been many others. The anger, disgust and rolling eyeballs at me when I keep struggling to learn something.
I want to take a crochet class, with a different teacher, but now I'm afraid of more abuse. I was going to sign up for one at a different store, should I explain to the instructor ahead of time that I have cognitive difficulties? Should I lay down ground rules that I won't accept abuse or bad behavior?

First, I have to applaud you that you stuck to your guns and suffered through all the holier than thous out there, and learned what you wanted to.And it does feel like abuse, I know too.  Getting a tutor was a good suggestion.

I've had difficulty playing games lately, which I like to do, but...Once at a party I had the hostess raging, because I couldn't think as fast as the others to write things down in  a long list being timed. She knew I'd finished college, but when I forgot which letter to use and used the wrong one one time, she freaked.  I think she thought I was making fun of the game.

Then playing cards with church members didn't work either.  I kept forgetting to focus on where I was supposed to throw away the card, every time it was my turn.  So I did them all a favor and quit, though I wish there had been a way I could have kept playing.

Well, I'm running on. Keep hanging in and standing up for your rights.

Mig58