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my sons biggest problem since kindy was invading other personal space. he would get excited and jump all over other kids, get up in there face constantly touching them. he is now 8 and has learnt what he shouldnt do but still gets a little excited when kids are around. it did take 4 years without medication but he eventually learnt.< id="gwProxy" ="">< ="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" ="">

My child is 6.  In kindergarden. I've recieved an email from him teacher saying that he has been touching the other kids in a non violent but unwanted way.  Its gotten to the point where another child complained to his mom and his mom said something to the teacher.  She told him repeatedly to stop but he still does.  I think he does this for attention.  I dont think he does anything intentionally to hurt anyone, but sometimes his arms work faster than his brain.  I've talked to him about this sooooo much.  It sinks in until the time comes when he's supposed to remember it and then it flies out the window.

It really bothers the other kids and I can see that for myself when I see him at a playground or any where else.  Kids get turned off by it.  He doesn't pick that up though.  

Any advice on how to nip this in the bud?  I've told the teacher to warn him once and then put him in a time out.  She say's thats what she normally does in the classroom when things like this happen.

He's in kindergarten now?

I would say that play therapy could help. He needs to learn formally
about personal space and how to pick up social cues. My son was in
"friendship groups" at school where a social worker helped kids learn
how to be good friends. It helped him a lot.

Remember - when other kids are learning social cues, ADHDers are
spending tons of time just dealing with their own buzzing brains. It's not
their fault. But they are playing catch up.

My son loves going to therapy because he doesn't have to worry about
disappointing his therapist, and when I'm talking to him he's very
concerned about if I'm mad or sad instead of learning what I'm telling
him.

Good luck!

Intruding on others' personal space is common with ADHD.  Punishing isn't going to help this.  Try role playing at home.  Act out situations and how he should respond.  Also, when he's intruding on your personal space, make sure you point it out to him so he can learn those boundaries. 

Before starting ADHD meds, my child had a lot of issues with intruding on others' personal space.  It helped if the teacher gave him a reminder directly before the situation how he should act.  For instance, right before lining up, she would remind him to keep his hands to himself and stay well behind the person in front of him.

Is your child on meds?  If so, I would talk with the doctor about possibly needing an adjustment.

Nothing but medication helped my son with this. Time outs are not going to work.

My six year old son was diagnoised with ADHD last year in Kindergarden. I had known for awhile that this was probably the case as his symtoms started at the age of one but I had a hard time coming to terms with it. Once my son started Kindergarden I like you started getting emails daily. My son was also invading others personal space. The teacher said that he was not doing it harmfully he just had a problem keeping his hands to his self. My son felt bad about this and said that the kids don't like him. I would talk to him all the time about keeping his hands to his self. He would promise that he would and genuinually would try but he just was not able to control himself. It then became clear it was his ADHD. He also had other major issues in the class room that were unable to be avoided. Because of his issues with staying in his own space and his constent movement his teacher had taped his desk and his space on the carpet for him to be aware of staying in his space. I was mortified when I saw that and felt as if he was being treated like a caged animal. I knew at that time it was time to start thinking about medication. I wanted him to be treated like any other child and not singled out. Happy and productive. Since we started the medication almost a year ago he has made a 360 in behavior. He was able to have his tape removed within in 2 weeks of being on the meds. He no longer touched others and invaded there space. He no longer blurted out. He no longer had to play with his figet ball in the class room. He is now able to sit still for long periods of time. Trying to tell a child with ADHD to not invade others personal space and to stop touching others will do nothing but make you as the parent frustrated when they are not able to stop themselves from doing it. You as a parent want to believe that they can comprehend, hear and understand you and although the ADHD child wants to do as you wish, they just are not able to. They often have no control over themselves. Medicine was the only thing that has helped my son. Changing his diet and other activities did not work. Good luck in your journey. I as you found it overwhelming and hard to understand at first but over time with the knowledge of ADHD you will start to understand how to better help your son.