Is he currently on any medication? It sounds like you don't have much faith in his doc so I would switch as fast as you can! When my son's medication isn't right he does the same thing...overreacts to EVERYTHING and meltsdown over NOTHING! Once we got his meds worked out it went away almost completely! Hang in there! I know exactly how you feel!
Sounds like you need to get with a child psychiatrist or behavior pediatrician for med mgmt and dump the current provider. You are right, it's about doing what they know, not knowing what to do.I recently was going through very similar stuff. Meltowns over everything and explosive meltdowns at that. I deal with it waaay more than my husband so it appears as if I am always the bad guy. And dad takes them to ride the dirt bikes and fun stuff,but I do all the hard work in the trenches. I finally had to talk to my husband because I felt as though this was affecting my relationship with my son. I felt like he hated me and daddy was the best thing ever.I told my husband that he needed to be nmore involved in the day to day battles.Also, I am setting time aside just for me and my son to do something fun together,so he can see that I'm not just the warden!! LOL. But I was feeling soo angry all the time that I myself felt like i was explode at any minute. I recently started taking St. John's Wort(natural supplement) hoping it would help with my mood and depression. It seems to have taken the edge off of my anger for sure,so that I can keep it together better. You are not alone. I've wondered the same thing about couples divorcing.I think you really have to have good communication with each other about your needs.I am just learning this,it's not easy but we are making progress.Wish you the best.I don't even know where to begin.......................my blood pressure is over the top! My son, who is 9, is OUT OF CONTROL! Whenever something doesn't go his way................he screams out whatever comes to mind and does NOT let up even with us telling him to stop. I cringe everytime he plays with the neighbor kids because the minute he goes outside..............there is trouble. And I'm not saying that they are all innocent...........they are typical kids but he is unreal.
Tonight..........just 15 minutes ago, he was accidentally hit on the face with a football. He went BALLISTIC on the kid screaming - I hate you.............you're not my friend..........I wish you would move.........you stole my best friend..........you're the worst........blah blah blah.....and much more that I honeslty don't remember. So, I dragged him home with my HAND on his mouth to NOT embarrass himself anymore because at this point any sympathy for the bruise on his cheek is gone from the neighbors because he is insulting this kids from head to toe and IS HE EVER LOUD!!!
What kind of medication helps control anger??? I take him to a therapist who just really doesn't take the "bull by the horns" and make good decisions for us. I feel like I have to be the one to ask for a certain drug to try. We have done Focalin XR with minimal results and clonodine.
Oh dear God.......................... I really don't even want to let him outside to play tomorrow since it's always an issue. I"m almost hoping for bad weather............isn't that sad? I am just sick of all of this. And to make matters worse...........my husband believes that by just calmly talking to him after the fact will make a difference. HOW many times is it going to take until he realizes that any advice given is NEVER used at the right time.
Thanks for listening.....sorry for rambling..............I'm just shaking and so embarrassed AGAIN for his OVER REACTION!......he doesn't have many friends and I just want peace with the kids who are willing to play with him on a daily basis. I just can't take it anymore.
Andrea
Matt age 9 ADHD
PS.............Now he's downstairs all buddy buddy with his father who just had a "calm" talk with him and he thinks it's all fine ..........until tomorrow! I wonder how many couples end up divorcing over an ADHD child. I just can't shift gears like that after that HUGE of an explosion...........it's just UNACCEPTABLE.
Have you read the book The Explosive Child? It made a huge difference inAndrea, I feel for you as my son sounds very similar. My son has just turned 9 and until recently he had no friends he played with out of school. Lately my son has had 2 playdates with a boy from his class and last weekend this boy had a sleepover and all was ok until later in the day when my son was getting very loud, silly, hyper and getting to be a real pain to be around. Me and my hubby took him aside and tried to explain how he was acting etc...all to no avail. In fact, my son started to get mouthy and backchat and laugh about it. He was placed into his room on 3 occasions for backchatting us in front of his friend and my son screamed and hollered like a toddler. Very embarrassing in front of another kid from his classroom. My hubby was almost in tears that night out of pure frustration and the constant mouthiness/backchat from my son and it seemed nothing we did could stop him. We even contemplated taking his friend home but then thought twice about it as it could've made things worse for the (possible) friendship my son may have with this boy. The next day though, our son was great.
As for marriage break ups with ADHD kids, I'm sure it's high on the ranks. Me and my hubby are on the brink of seperation. We only got my son diagnosed adhd when he was just over 8 yrs old so from 2-8 yrs me and my hubby have pretty much blamed each other for various things our son did (not realising he was adhd) and the stress etc........We do both have mild depression and I would have to say mainly due to my son's behaviours.
A previous poster mentioned she takes St John Wort so I may actually try that as that could take "the edge off".
By the way, my son is not medicated as we took him off meds about 3 weeks ago and I'm seeing the Ped this week to review what meds to take as previous one's didn't work effectively.
How is your son's meds. I guess if the med's are working as they should be then behaviours are easier to manage.
I hope things improve for you and your son. It's good to know sometime's your'e not alone and other kids are having the same issue's. Best wishes.
Tara
Sometimes it takes awhile to find the right medicine and dosage. Don't give up just because the Focalin XR didn't help much. Obviously he's really out of control now. I hope you find something to make things better -- for everyone's sake.