I just posted on the original thread - I am so happy to see that this was corrected before harm was done. I would be furious. Who knows that your son and the two others would not have been able to dress? Why do you know that there were three. I hope the teacher that thought this rule up pays some heavy duty price.
Keep fighting for your son. He will know it!
Have a happy Halloween.
I'm happy to report our son came home today (in his costume) happy and excited about the party in school, so it all ended well. Tver Mom, I'm not sure who thought up the original idea of not allowing costumes for the children who didn't have 75 points, but I'm assuming it was one of the four first grade teachers since that was how the note was signed. The passport points are posted on a large chart in the classroom, so our son was able to tell us that he had only 34 points (he was the lowest) and that two other children, who he named to us, were below 75. I'm not sure what the ratio was in the other classrooms but I'm guessing it was probably similar. I have a parent-teacher conference a week from Monday and I plan on discussing this further at that time. I'm sure the principal has already informed her that I was in his office, but I really want to try and get her to understand my position on this so hopefully, going forward, we won't have a similar issue.I would be furious about the points being posted publicly. That is a violation of your son's privacy. It also becomes fodder for parents - these are the good kids and these are the bad kids. All of the bullying and social implications of that system are ludicrous.
Is this a public school?
I still am angy at myself for not pushing back on a kindergarten teacher for my daughter. She is in third grade and is still overcoming the labeling.
Keep fighting and if necessary insist that your son be moved to a more caring class and teacher.
Good luck!
I'm so glad to hear that there was a change for the costume party and I'm glad your son was able to have a great time! Good luck in chatting w/the teacher, hopefully she is one that can listen & understand your points to benefit ALL of the kids. I agree that a reward system is a good thing & it help kids work harder BUT it should be a private thing for each individual so that no further bullying or labeling can occur, our children have enough trouble already. Good luck!OH i just found this update!
I'm still a little worried about your school. I am still a little freaked out at what psychological damage that could have created!
Publicly displayed behavior charts? Hmmmmm. Not good.
They need to figure out their reward system.
I agree, public behavior charts are not a good idea but there are soooo many things that we have concerns over with this school that I have tried to limit my complaints as much as I am able to. I plan on addressing the reward chart issue at the parent teacher conference on Monday. Although I'm not thrilled with this year's teacher, she's leaps and bounds over last year's! The school policy in general really puts kids with behavioral challenges at a distinct disadvantage. Even if their academic capabilities are above grade level, their achievements are rarely recognized and it's so unfair.
My son is at a school like this. You might want to drop the word discrimination during your conference. It's very likely that he did not score 75 points due to behaviors directly related the ADHD.Wow, this is kind of unbelievable. My son felt badly enough last year about all the trouble he got into without there being a chart on the wall to constantly remind him how he had failed. I'm sure the chart is a great motivational tool for the kids who have a lot of points, but for the kids who haven't earned all those points it would only be discouraging.
Just yesterday ds was telling me how he admires his teacher, how whenever there's a behaviour issue in the classroom his teacher finds a fun way to deal with it, without naming any names or making anyone feel bad. It's too bad your child's teacher doesn't have those kinds of classroom management skills.
I'm really glad he got to dress up, and enjoyed the day. Honestly, I think if that was my child I would have sent him to school in costume anyway, and see how the teacher reacted to that. Seriously, how could someone who is supposed to have training in dealing with kids think this was a good idea!