If I had a dime for every husband (ex or not) that I knew of/heard about that was dead set against meds, including mine, I would be driving a Mercedes instead of a 10 yr old Honda.
I don't mean to be flip but this is a common situation. I hated putting my 7 yr old on meds but they have truly helped him be all that he can be. The final decision came down to 'it's not what I want, it's what is best for my kid.' We have a very conservative pediatric neurologist who ran a battery of tests (MRI, Ekg, the brainscan thing when they are sleeping, etc) to minimize problems down the line. It took a few tries to find the right med and dose but he has responded well. There are days where I still freak out that my son is on meds but I cannot deny he is wired differently than most kids, it is an organic issue.
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Ok so here's my story. I have a 6 year old son who has always been over active, he can't sit still, can't focus for more than a minute or two at a time, and is constantly in trouble at school for being disruptive, not doing his work, fidgeting, and not paying attention. I recently filled out the Vanderbilt assessment and had his teacher fill out hers, I took them back to the pediatricians office for them to look at and evaluate and got a call back saying that I needed to bring him in for a well check and to discuss his assessment, that he would more than likely need to be placed on medication for it. I knew this was coming but my ex-husband is dead set against putting him on medication but I have him 5 out of 7 days of the week and I'm not sure what else I can do to help him. What do you "experienced" moms recommend? Do I need to find out about being referred to someone other than the pediatrician or what? Do you think the benefits of the medications outweigh the risks? Just some of the side effects and warnings I have seen on a lot of the medications that I found are used for treatment in ADHD scare me to death. Please help me...