I just need to vent | ADHD Information
HI THERE MY SWEETIE PLEASE LOOK INTGO GETTING SOME FORM OF RESPITE CARE FROM YOUR PED DOCTOR I TO HAVE AN ADHD DAYUGHTER WITH COEXSISTING DISORDERS, MANY OF TIMES I COULD HAVE THROWEN OVER THE FENCE ,AND PEOPLE JUST DONT GET IT. UNTILL YOU SHOUT LOUD ENOUGH. I LOST MY HUSBAND (THERE DAD ) EARLIER THIS YEAR AND TAKE IT FROM ME WE AS MUMS NEED A BREAK
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF AND RECHARGE WHEN YOU CAN. ITS TAKEN ME A LONG TIME TO GET TO THIS POINT TO ASK FOR HELP BUT WE AND OUR KIDS DESERVE IT.
I just joined this site because of what you are writing about. Trust me, I totally get were you are coming from. Some days are better than others and I look forward to bed time. I guess it all comes down to "me" time when you can get it. Even if it is once a month with friends and dinner. This will let you vent and take yourself out of the environment. Best of luck! Have a glass or two of wine.
I just don't know how I am going to handle this for the remaining x amount of years. My son is only 5 1/2. How am I going to get thru this! I just don't know sometimes. Sometimes I just dream about running away. Isn't that awful. I love my son. I just am so tired of repeating myself over and over and over again. I am so exhausted every night. I actually thought if I seperate from my husband maybe that would be good so I would have a few nights to myself when he would have him. I could sit in a room where it is completely silent. And thats all I want to do is talk to NO ONE! I love my husband so why would I want to do that. I feel completely overwhelmed. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Just want to say, that it will getbetter. There are hundreds of different things and combinations you can try
to figure out what works. It's a royal pain, but you will find your way.
You're totally right - you need a break. What can you do to take care of
yourself? Can you schedule "alone time?" Try grocery shopping by yourself
- it's a godsend for me.
Keep venting. We've all been there, and we're all in a better place now. It's
your turn for a breakthrough. It's right around the corner.
Been there! It gets better. Well, it gets better with medication. However when it wears off, you do have to repeat an amazing number of times. Mouth-dropping, isn't it? I'm always thinking "Seriously? You haven't done that yet??" But you will actually get used to it, repeat automatically, and follow up without much thought. I found it highly annoying for years. Make sure you get eye contact, and have him repeat it back to you. That works for the young ones.Jessica N40513.8303125My husband is a wonderful help, however he is a firefighter and works those lovely 24 on and 48 off.. And lately he is up all night that 24 on so the next 24 he is a zombie... Its very challenging...
Days are better, its the 3/4 hours in the evening that will kill me. I just had a long talk with him while he was sleeping LOL!!!!!! I said my love, I love you so, however if you climb over the arm of the couch again, or I find you upside down on the stairs, I am going to rip the arm off the couch and beat you with it while you are upside down on the stairs! Kidding..
Thanks for the vent. Hang in there!!!! I know how you feel. My daughter is 13
yrs old and sometimes I still feel like screaming but it
has gotten better over the years with a lot of trial and
error.
I have to admit I chuckled a little when reading your post. Only because everything you said is what I have said or thought before. I thought, it might be good if I get a divorce because I can have a day free from my 9yrold ADHD ODD son! I also have an inside joke with my husband about Tent City. I heard a story on NPR about a womaMn who left her husband and children because she couldnt take it anymore and went to live in a tent city with other homeless people. And she was content to be there and was thankful for her microwave in her tent. And I always joke now, "Tent city here I come!"
And yes, I say "9 more years of this" and my husband chimes in "or sooner if the penal system takes over".
My child is very difficult and I have to squeeze out humor to keep me sane. Hope you had a little chuckle after reading this. Keep writing on here it is great for your brain. And I agree with grocery shopping at night, make the husband put them to bed and go buy some snacks just for you or a magazine!
See you at Tent City come on over - I will have a microwave!
Ha! just read the couch arm thing tooooooo funny!!!!![QUOTE=llauren] I actually thought if I seperate from my husband maybe that would be good so I would have a few nights to myself when he would have him. I could sit in a room where it is completely silent. And thats all I want to do is talk to NO ONE! I love my husband so why would I want to do that. I feel completely overwhelmed. [/QUOTE]
I thought of leaving my dh so I could deal with ds the way I want to, like get him a DX and help. I never thought about it giving me a break.
Happy Holidays Everyone!
I am in the same boat of wanting to leave. One thing that I find relaxing, other than grocery shopping, is walking a 1/2 marathon. Did one the past weekend and after that I felt alot better. Wish I had one this weekend. Oh well, in a couple weeks I get to do 7.5 miles. This is a good place to vent. I have found that out. Today was a tough day for my daughter and we are in the process of raising her meds. Hopefully it will work. My dh thinks it is funny that she is running around the class trying to kiss the boys because they are pretty. She is 7 and has been diagnosed since July and we are in the process of finding the right combination of meds.
Take care everybody and I liked the stories above. 