my son encountered many kids like this. I did approach the parents of the one child who has been bullying for some time and it got me no where and the parents now stare at me like I am to blame for their "perfect child" having issues. ( the father works for the school system and the child has said that nothing will ever happen to him as his father will fix it). Dad, however, was unable to stop being called into the principle's office with the son at which time the child was told to cut it out.
Trust me, do NOT go to the party, have your son stay as far away from this child as possible and there are laws against bullying. Make sure the teacher knows all about this child and what is going on in class. Let the school handle it. Do follow ups to make sure that e-mails home actually went and if you dont get what you want from the teacher, move on to the principle. let them know that your child will NOT be a target for this kid and he needs to be controlled!!!
My heart is breaking. My 5 year old son was invited to a birthday party and told me he did not want to go because the boy is mean. He usually loves parties. I kept pushing as why he didn't want to go, and he said the boy won't play with him, took his toy cars away and called him gay because his best friend is a girl. My son definately has social issues because of his ADHD, but he is a very sweet boy who never tries to hurt others. I don't know if I should talk to the teacher or the boy's mother or just tell him to ignore the boy. I would like to smack the little jerk. This is just the first of many kids like this that he will encounter. The boy must have learned "gay" at home so approaching the parents is probably not a good use of your time. I teach to avoid/ignore. If the person does not make you feel good about yourself, do not hang out with them. Your son's natural response is right. He does not need to go to this party. He has encountered his first rotten egg.Jessica N40572.5051736111