I need help | ADHD Information

I am new and have a five year old son that was diagnosed with ADHD just before his 4th birthday.  He has always been very active, but it is his impulsiveness that is what triggered us to medicate - Methylin.  We have tried rewards, taking things away, but he still comes home with that "naughty note".  Usually it happens at recess or when they are told to do something at school--he can't wait.  He is too physical.  The girls want him to chase them.  He does, but when he catches them--he takes them down to the ground.  He doesn't mean to hurt them, he is just doing what they wanted.  We go through the "hands to yourself" everyday and he knows that it is wrong, but I think that his impulses take over and...bad things happen.  We were also told to make sure he is "active".  We have had him in several different clinics to see what sports he may like, but it is a nightmare each time.  If he isn't the center of attention he starts acting out and running around.  I love my son, but it is embarrassing as the other parents look at you with "the look".  I think it is affecting his relationships at school because he is so overbearing and other parents don't want their child playing with the "naughty kid".  I need any advice possible.  I want my child to succeed and he isn't right now.

Do you think the Methylin is helping him at all?  It sounds like it's time to try something else.

I hope you get it figured out soon!  I know how hard it is to watch your child struggle.

I agree with the above poster... it sounds like maybe this med isnt for him. request from the doctor too try something new. not every med will work with each individuals body chemistry. goodluck ((((hugs))))

yes, we tried several meds before we go it right.  A HUGE differnece!! My son sounds the same, but he is 10 now and still is sooo impulsive when he is not medicated.  Very hard for the social aspect for kids

  What also has been helpful for us is behavioral therapy and reading up on ADHD for myself (how to parent) and we acutally go anther book at the library for my boy. it was funny.

good luck :)

This is yet another recommendation to try some other med.  Our son was exactly like you describe your son to be, exactly!!  Because of his different reactions to social stimuli his teacher even suspected he may have Asperger's syndrome, but since he has been medicated he is doing fantastically well.  The other kids are inviting him to parties again, and his confidence is back.  His teacher is giving me nothing but good reports, has no issues with him at all.  The last birthday party he went to, the parents told me he was an absolute treat to have at the party!  I don't know anything about Methylin but I really think it would be worth trying something else. 

I am raving about how well Connor is doing because I have had the same thoughts you are having, the same worries and fears.  I still don't assume there will be no problems in the future but I have so much more hope for him now and I'm no longer afraid every time the bell rings at the end of the school day for what happened or who he hurt.  I wish you and your son all the best.

 

Willa