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Hi, the emotional pain one feels in these situations really drains our energy
levels. Her frustrated angry cry for help seems to make it even more
intense. Understanding her CORE BELIEFS and VALUES will help you
communicate with her in her own language.

well she has been seen by the hossy doctor and this was her second time to see him and he said she has got adhd but more the implusive side , she played up something rotten in his office , she was hanging upside on chairs jumping off the bed and stairs thn locked my friend in the toilets and found it highly amuseing, she was in the doctors face and not doing as asked , and i left her to it becaus ei thought you know what this is what she is like for me everyday and they needed to see it . so now she has a referrel to camhs (not to sure what that is) i know its a team that will work with her and she has another appointment to attend and the school teacher has to fill in some forms , and her teacher said without a doubt she can not sit still during any lesson.

so finall we are getting somewhere and she will be able to get the extra surport needed and help with controlling her anger before it gets to late . :) thank you everyone for all you help :)

A neuropsychologist would be even better. It could be ADHD, or it could be
ODD, or it could be co-morbid.

My son would have violent tantrums that he curbed after getting his ADHD
treated. He also has Asperger syndrome, and violent tantrums are one of it's
hallmarks.

Going through it is tough, but getting through it makes your whole family
stronger. You can do this. But don't wait on the help - it's a long road, but
once you find success it is so worth it.

Keep us posted!

It's so hard when they kids are violent because you KNOW they don't want to feel the way they do. I think the hardest part was making the appointment to talk to someone about the issues my kids were having. When you tell your pediatrician that your 2 year old is hitting you, he says "that's what they do." But we know, as mom's, that this is different.

Definitely make a call. Even if it's just to your pediatrician and they can put you in contact with someone who can diagnose. You don't want your child to feel the way they do right now and it's not fair to the other kids.

Hi ya donnad i have been in your shoes and i understand what you are going throught, My son is 12 this year and i have 2 other boys aswell and i am a single parent, I went and saw my doctor and told her every thing that was going on with my son and she reffered me to a nhs team called camhs and it was there that 1 of ther qualified doctors told me that my son was adhd,I never bother with hospitals and things like that cuse they give u all the help and support you need to cope with your child and they offer a wounderful service to parents, I did a lot of looking up on the internet and in books to actualy find out what adhd was and that was my son, I would surrgest going to your doctor and telling them all about your child and see if they can reffer u to a local camhs team by you.CAMHS stands for child adalesent mental health service.

thank you everyone for your help , i have looked up that odd and there are ALOT of things that my daughter does which connets to that , she has an appointment with the shool doctor coming up in a few weeks and i have the school nurse coming out tomorrow . i will let you know what she thinks tomorrow.

and you are sooooo right it is hard on us all i know i feel like ive failed somewhere and im compeletly drained and starting to feel im losing the plot. as for my daughter she gets really angry when she feels shes not being understood which im sure is extermly frustating for her and the fact that all the kids laugh at her and dont really want to play with her is heart breaking to stand and watch , i try to invole her in everything but as you know kids can be cruel creatures when they wish to be. :( , oh and now my daughter has started to get told off at school more and more for not listening and lack of consontration which in my eyes is a good thing for now beause at least they are picking up on it.

 

i will keep you all posted and thank you so much for your help it is helping alot to speak to people who understand that some kids just need tht little bit of extr attension and they are not just naughty and annoying .

 right to start off i will let you know my daughter has not been diganoised with adhd but i truely believe she has it , im not saying this because i think shes naughty therfore she must have it im saying this because there is a whole lot of issue with her.

first of all this has been going on for years but started getting worse when she had just turned 7 and it was within the summer holidays , she has always been an emotional child and can cry at anything and get worked up , she does not behave like any of the 7 year olds around here , she gets up at 5am most days and HAS to wake others up any which way she can , i know from this instant what kind of day im in for.

she is very voilent and has bite me smacked me punched kicked and pinched me , also hits me with whats in her hand , she has gone to hit her sister in the face with a glass vase and hit her with a metal pole all through anger and frustion. i am BEGGING  for help from our school nurse and school for her but because she doesnt do this in school yet does it everywhere eles they are not really willing to help. i have been taking pictures of my bruises and recored her when she has her 2 hr kick offs to which i have to take her to her room for the safety of my other 3 children one of which is a baby of 8 mths and she said she was going to set on fire with a lighter. she is loud most times can just scream IN YOUR FACE for no reason what so ever and annoys eveyone she meets , which in turn annoys me because they dont understand that under all of that she is a really nice girl and kind and sharing when she wants to be.

i am at the end of my tether i really need help and advice on this do you think this could be adhd and f so what other little symtoms could i look out for to help my case as i really want to get the help for her before she turns into an angry stronger teenager.

thank you any help very much appecianted.

Just by reading your post, I can tell you are desperate. I don't think this is adhd alone. RUN! Don't walk, RUN!!! To the nearest psychiatric hospital. Your daughter poses a threat to your and the safety of your other children. She very well may need inpatient treatment. Please don't delay. She needs to be evaluated as soon as possible. 

It does not sound like ADHD to me. I also agree with mmcnatt. Can you talk to your pediatrician about having her admitted to a psychiatric hospital? There she could be evaluated by a skilled staff and treated.this does not sound like adhd to me either... maybe bipolar... or another type of illness.... u need to have her see a pyschiatrist to check her... sounds like you are both in desperate need... i no how your feeling , my little girl is the same , your story sound so much like mine,

ive been wait to get my daughter for 5 years now... she is know 9 yrs old , she set fire to think in my house , bulles kids at school , steals you name she does it  and she seem very pround of her actions , she hurt her little sister who is 9 months,

she kick punches, swear . runs on ppl gardens hides under cars playes with her poo and messes in the loo .

ive seen so many people and she still had not been diagnosis, yet , its a slow prosses
 so be patienced

let me no how you get on .  if you ever need to talk to som1 as i no how hard it can be . thinking of you xx
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