Silly behaviour........... | ADHD Information

Tara,

Any luck with the suggestions? I know when the meds start wearing off at my house, the noises increase. And most of the time, they don't even realize they are doing it. Or my son will sing and we'll ask him to sing a little more quietly, then he'll belt it out again 30 seconds later. Impulse control is not around after 8pm.  Buy my non-adhd kids do it, too!

Hi, I think jess0121 has really given a fresh approach to those annoying
sounds they make.

My 14yr old ADD son was just taken aback when I started imitating him. It
turned out to be quite funny and we both had a good laugh!

Good luck, we all need those fun moments to lighten our burdens.I've also tried the mimicking approach on obnoxious behavior.  When he hears exactly how he sounds, he stops.  I also used to tell him that I was going to videotape him so he could see how he was acting.  Just the threat of pulling out the camcorder was enough to get him to stop.  1 impulsiveness    To be concentrating on one the game. And the
ADHD    Leaves an impulse. To let out emotions verbally.
2. I see a second co morbid. In what gyoure talking about .

3 get Into family therapy.
And get the carrier parent diagnosed   So when the dad is impulsive
" snaps"   He is also. Seeking attention.

I applaud you bring this into a forum

Attention seeking behavior can start as positive then become negative
to keep. Attention.

I would say the most effective parenting skill to apply to this situation.
Hmmm tool.

Planned ignore. Followed by. Reward for positive attention or
outcome.   Reward with appropriate response.

Most folks miss that emotional development is 90% attention.

So when voices rise.    It's like a que for me to process the situation
Who needs attention. And think quickly about how to invite a positive
outcome. Without rewarding negative behaviors. Usually just a
separation. Space. Then time for calm to return. Then. A chance to
ask what could we do differently next time the feelings occur. To avoid
the attention seeking response from either of them.

Btw. Nothing I say can considered accurate. Just. A fellow who relates
with what your saying.    

Therefore the other disorder. I suspect is weaker/present would also
just be a wild assumption. So I won't say what I think about the
clicking fingers.and noise verbalizations .
What I didn't hear you say is. Giggling for thirty minutes and unable
to listen.    So I'm not really sure what you mean by silly as applied to
a disorder.

Odd kids can remain in constant state of " being in trouble " I don't get
that from what you describe

Infact. What I hear you saying. Is the dad is creating the negativity.

Not the child.    
Beyond this I would just be guessing

Tara, to me this sounds like joy bubbling up. He's not angry, raging, throwing things, or screaming in frustration. He's breaking out in song! It could be so much worse! Tell your husband to sing along and count the blessings.

Hi, I have a 9.5 yr old son who has adhd and whilst on meds during the day, by late a/noon meds worn off and were dealing with "normal adhd" behaviours.

Whilst I find it frustrating, my (possibly adhd) husband is having a really, really hard time dealing with some of the things my son does. Wer'e not talking outright bad behaviour but just pure silliness/immature behaviour.

Examples would be my son talking non-stop and putting on wierd voices and making strange sounds.  He will sit and play his play station and talking silly talk.........could be inappropriate talk, strange noises with his mouth, clicking fingers, house can be all quite and my son will break into a song in a wierd voice etc or make a loud sudden noise with his voice.

I hope you can get the gist of what I'm saying..............yes, it is annoying but I can tolerate it to a degree but hubby just snaps and tells asks my son why he has to do these silly things and is it appropriate etc..........

Personally, I think at 9.5 yrs old, kids are still silly (especially boys) and will make strange vocal sounds etc.........

Any advice pls

Tara

My 10 y/o boy is a very odd kid.  My hubby and I love his quirkiness although he does do things that can be inappropriate, which we discipline. He also has ODD (oppositional defiant disorder) so we have learned to just let the things that don't really matter go by.

Teaching him about behaviors with others outside the home might be good since add kids do have trouble in social situations.  "That's fine when you are home, but kids may not like hanging with someone who is doing this or that"

Hope my 2 cents were helpful :)

have a great day

You are describing my 8yo son when he is not medicated.  I totally, completely know what you are talking about because we have the same thing going on. 

I very well understand how tiring this can be.  I know that when our son starts with this type of behaviour, my husband and I are 'on alert' right away for the other inappropriate behaviours that are probably on the way.  I can almost feel my blood pressure rise as his meds wear off.

Is he on extended-release medication?  Have you tried different ones to see if some will last longer and you have less time that you have to deal with this?  How does your son feel about his dad's actions?  How does he feel about his own behaviors?  If he's unhappy about what he's doing, then it's worth exploring some new medications to see if they keep him on a more even keel for longer.

That being said, IMO your husband needs to seriously consider what harm your son is doing with these actions, and what harm he himself is doing to your son when he 'snaps' and loses his temper.  Your son is not able to control these actions the way a non-ADHD kid can, and it can't feel good to have his parent angry with him for something that's out of his control.  Your husband wouldn't get angry with a kid who had diabetes for needing insulin.  If your child had a broken leg you wouldn't be angry that he couldn't run.

Have you explored the possibility that your husband has ADHD as well?  You mentioned that he may have it, and if he does then getting him treatment may be the answer.

I hope this helps.

 

that is also my son, hubby gets mad because he makes strange noises all
the time and talks to himself, etc...

Hi ya all, I know what u are going throught and i am a single parent who as to be mom and dad some times, with the silly noises my son used to do that so i started to copy him and every time he made the noise i would do it and he used to say to me "mom you sound silly why you doing that noise for"cuse half the time my son would never relise that he was making the sounds i was making back at him, So get your husband to make the same noise's back at him and see what he dose, And as for cliking his fingers my child used to do that so i got some play dough and when he feels like cliking his fingers ihe used to mess with the play dough cuse children with adhd need to be doing some thing with there fingers all the time to occupy there mind it will take his mind off the cliking thing .mom of 3 boys

12 year old with adhd         &n bsp; 

8 year old sharp as a pin

14 year old football mad

 

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