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Thank you for the advise! I will be making a chart and
trying to get him on track. The meds do work for a little
bit then stop. Its so sad cause he can be so good :(

mommy4david,

Hello, I am so sorry for all your worry and sadness. I also just want to hug and help your son and you.

Is his adhd caused by lead paint poisoning? Does anyone else have adhd or the other co-morbids?

My son has both sensory and adhd. He did have some anxiety as well. His medications have worked awesome. It took us a while to find the right med and then the right dosage. We went to a psychopharmacologist.

Our son just wanted to be like everyone else, to NEVER stand out, just fit in.

He has always been on a high dosage. He is currently turning 14 and is still on the same med combo, just a higher dose. He takes 104 mgs of concerta and 1 mg of guanfacine.

Your son doesn't chose to do all of this, it is just how he is wired. It is all neurological. I still wonder if there is a genetic component?

Before you left the abusive situation, was your son more successful on the other meds or was he just heavily medicated so he didn't act how he is now?

Do you think the behavior is caused from the move or the med change, both, etc OR do you think he needs to be re-evaluted? I am wondering if this should be an option.

What does school say? Does he have an IEP? How is his social/friends?

I am so sorry for all my questions, I honestly just want to help.

Ok let me get to answering u :) Ok yes we believe his
ADHD was a cause from the lead poisoning. Me or his dad
dont have anything and his half sister on his dad side
has no problems. Yes David has anxiety very bad - I
believe I have some of that too. David has been good at
first on meds then it starts to stop. His one doc would
start upping it but this doc lowers it thinking its doing
a reverse affect on him. David has never been successful
on any ADHD meds other then Folican. His behavior has
gotten a bit better in a calmer home. He is starting to
see a sensory therapist, a neurologist, and his med doc.
They did a MRI was clean. Next is a EEG and a neuro work
up. School he has memory problems and yes he has a IEP.
He tends to go to adults and kids younger then him and
that are a lot like him. A lot going to go on...like
always

First of all I want to just tell you how awesome of a mom you are! Please try to remember that through all the heart ache, tears, and frustration. (I too have cried those tears!)

My son also gravitates to younger children and has no problems with adults. It is very common with our adhd'ers. Maybe they feel more comfortable. But keep in mind with the younger children stuff - they are 30% BEHIND their age. So if your son is 9, he is more like a 6.3 year old.

I know you have a lot going on but Please keep doing what you are doing, you will find the right solution.

I also know that depression is another co-morbid with adhd'ers. April seems to be a really bad month for depression, especially bi-polar.

Puberty will also come into play once he enters it. Just hang in there with the rest of us. And come to the boards, you know you are surrounded by friends who understand & care !!

Been a while since I have been here. New issues have
popped up with my son. He will be 9 in May. We moved 7
months ago away from his abusive father. We are now 2
hours away from him. His new doctors down here have been
interesting. New things have
popped up. They dropped down his Folican XR to only 30mg
on school days and 20mg on weekends. Put him back on
Tenex and upped it slowly. We only now have seen him
having Sensory Issues popping up. Like he was on too much
meds before for it to show. He now has been diagnosed
with SPD. Its mainly with his auditory but a little bit
in other areas. He now cant ride the bus or eat in the
school cafeteria. He gets hyper vigilant and cant easily
be calmed down. He gets angry if u say something to him
in the wrong tone or wrong way. We take his DS and stuff
away and tell him he cant get them back until he calms
down but he dont for hours. After he does calm down we
give him TV to watch and the next day if he is still good
he can get game cube back. Sometimes he dont care what u
do he keeps flipping out. I dont know what to do. Im
reading up on SPD to see if this has a lot to do with
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He's not flipping out on purpose. He'd rather be good and always have access to his things, I'm sure. I've found that threatening my kids to calm down has never really worked. If they were that in control of their emotions, they wouldn't be flipping out in the first place.

Instead of taking things away for bad behavior, give things for good behavior. You wake up with a blank slate, if you want to earn tv time, you have to do three things. Two of the things should be very easy, one a little more challenging. But make it easy the first week so he can see you're on his side. Once you make it through one week, replace a really easy one with a slightly harder task. For example, put your clothes in the hamper, brush your teeth, do something nice for someone without their asking. Make them all "start" behaviors, not "stop" behaviors. Next week, put your clothes in the hamper, do something nice for someone, if you get upset, calm yourself.

Meds are hard to figure out. Was he good on what you were giving him before? I hate to change if things are working!

Do you feel that he's doing better on the lower Focalin XR dosage?  It sounds like he's having more problems.  Maybe he needs the higher dose?

I'm sorry you are going through so much, and I hope it gets better soon!

yes I agree with u!! He is having more problems! He sees
the doc on Thursday and Im pushing for meds twice a day!
and TY Bethann - It means a lot :)

If he needs a higher dose to control the ADHD symptoms, taking it twice a day won't do it.  If he can't handle being in the cafeteria and other situations, I would think he needs to be back on the higher dose.

Were you seeing bad side effects?  I'm trying to figure out why it might be better to take it 2x/day vs. taking the extended-release medicine once at the higher dose?

Good luck figuring it out!

He was on higher dose of XR and he wasnt eating at all. If
we can split the XR he will eat in between it.