My 8 year old son is ADHD. There are 7 other boys that live in our apartment complex. One kid will come up to see if son can play. Within 5 minutes all hell brakes lose. All the kids will be yelling saying son hit one of them or something. Turnes out they are out there bulling son. When he reacts it is all his fault. Now all the parents but one say he can not play with their kids. I don't know what to do. I don't want to punish my son for defending himself. Eventhough it was the wrong way. I know son is not perfect but everything is not his fault. How should I handle the situation? When son is out with the only kid that can play with him the other kids will come out and take him away. I am so tired and sad. I do not know how to handle the problem. He does not have problems like this at school.
Have you talked to some of these parents to find out why they have singled out your son this way? Is there even one you feel you could approach this way? Unfortunately that's all I can really think of right now, other than creating play opportunities with other children so he doesn't feel so left out from the appartment kids. If he doesn't have these problems at school you may want to focus your son's attention on those kids instead.
Good luck with this, I feel bad for you and your son. If you find any ways to deal with this, let us know what works. We all have probably dealt with this (or not) one way or another.
I'm sorry he is being treated this way. I agree to talk with the other parents. Also, can you stick around and observe what's going on? The boys may act differently when you're around, but you might see something helpful.
I'd also coach your son how to respond in situations like this. My son can be impulsive, and I've had to coach him to get an adult instead of responding physically. Honestly, it's helped a little, but he still can be impulsive and punch/hit/kick someone if meds aren't in his system.