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How would any of you handle this? My son goes across the street
and rings the doorbell 3 times in one day and everytime he does, the
child or family had a reason why they cannot play but later on that
day, I see them picking up another neighbor child to go out with.

So, I told my son not to knock. Yesterday, the same chd was playing
out but did not knock. Today, three of the boys were out riding bikes
again but, once again, no one knocked on our door to ask my son to
join in. The only time he gets to play with them is when he sees them
outside and runs up to them and joins in. Did I do the right thing
telling my child not to knock anymore? I have been keeping the front
blinds closed as well so we cannot see the kids when they are out
front.

Btw, they are all 10 and 11 years old and a few days ago he asked to
join them when they were going to one if the boys homes and the
child td my son that he could only have a certain number of kids over
and only he was allowed to ask his mother. My son came home
alone.It's not easy to sit by and watch the kids on the block shun your child.  I know, because it has happened to us.  When they did allow him to play, they treated him badly, but he always went back for more because he was so staved for friends.  Eventually, he found a friend in the neighborhood and your son will also.  Encourage him to seek out others whom he would enjoy playing with.  Is there anyone from school who lives close by that he could invite over?  Does he belong to scouts, or play on a sports team where he could cultivate a friendship? Do you have a Y in the area, or some summer camps that he could attend?  I keep my grandson busy with a couple of week-long sports day camps during the summer in order to break up the monotony. 
I also have put my daughter in little half-day 4h camps to keep her from getting bored.  We just don't have many kids in our neighborhood for her to play with anyway.  Instead of focusing on the neighborhood kids, do any of your friends have kids that you could pick up and bring to your house to play with him?  That has been what we have always done.  I know it isn't as convenient, but that way she still gets to spend time with kids her age.

I have the same situation with my 11 year old.  Unfortunately it happened with his closest friend (and unfortunately he hardly has any friends).  It hurt him alot, so I told him to stop calling and eventually this boy would start coming around again.  Well he did come around a few times, and it was obvious it was only because he had no one else to hang out with, but my son didn't know that and was thrilled.  Now this boy is moving out of state this weekend and I am sort of glad.  I won't in this situation have to worry about his feelings getting hurt in this situation.

I also have been trying to point out to my son when he does odd things, like talk weird or act inappropriately, that maybe kids think he is weird and that is why they don't want to hang with him.  I think at this age he needs to start making a connection why this is happening.  Also encouraging new friendships if possible could be the solution.

well, the summer has gone by and I belong to a motherhood group so he
has gotten to get out and play some. Interesting note....my son saw that
same child out and asked him why he doesn't ring the bell anymore to ask
him to play The boy made up some excuse and told my son that when he
stopped ringing, he thought my son was mad so he didn't come over.

I was so proud of my son, he called him a liar to his face!!! when they
broke up the conversation and my son came home, the other boy said
"thanks for calling me a liar", my son said ?thanks for trying to tell me the
truth". They have not spoken since and my son stopped asking to go
over.

This child was a good friend, we took him to school every day for 2 years.
Then, we had a fight with a family in the back of the subdivision. Their
adhd son couldn't keep his hands to himself when it came to our son. So
wheat happened? they became friends with the family across the street,
whom no longer talk to us at all!!!! Their son was told, I guarantee it, to
stay away fro our son. So sad he should have to deal with this at his age,

How funny - we are dealing with a neighbor behind us that we choose to no longer speak with also.  My situation was that this girl and my son got along great, but when left alone I didn't know what was going to happen in my house.  My son's impulsiveness went through the roof and she was right there with him.  So we had a big fight with the mother and we refuse to let our kids go over to their house.  I figure it is better they are away from each other to help my son make better decisions like he does with other friends.  Unfortunately as kids they dont' get it so we have had many intense discussions and tears. 

When some event happens where my kids do something like yell at me or are disrespectful, I always say to them...do you see me treat my friends this way or that way and it helps to bring it home (outside of the neighbor situation, I am very nonconfrontational).  Maybe you could do this with your situation.