There are some books about ADD and Relationships.
Amy thank you so much for taking the time to repy to my posting. Hearing things from the other side certainly helps.
Kudos to you for trying to better understand your partner. I really cant offer much advise other than to tell you not to hold his distancing or wandering mind personally. I myself am very bad of doing the same thing.
I was diagnosed with ADHD years ago but never thought it was much of a problem for me. Just recently my husband pointed out to me that it was and has been a problem for those around me, and one of his main gripes was the very thing you mention. There have been many times when he, or other friends have been trying to talk to me, and while I try my best to listen, my mind just wanders and I wind up not knowing a word of what has been told to me.
Good luck to you in your venture of finding information on this and Hang in there!
Amy