My Wife and ADHD | ADHD Information

Hello I am new to this board and am looking for help to cope with my spouses disease. Dealing with a loved one who has been diagnosed with adhd has been very stressful on our relationship, and talks of divorce have surfaced. It is very frustrating not knowing if she is on meds or not,see she has a history of substance abuse, mostly vicadin, percocet, and oxycontin. At times she stays awake for days, and then will sleep for what seems to be days. My feeling is that when she recieves her meds she abuses them as she has the V,P and O in the past. I have found that she hides her meds from me which in itsself is strange, although as I understand a normal practice of people diagnosed with ADHD. It is at a point now where I fear the safety of our daughter. I am terrified at the fact that my wife may fall asleep smoking after pulling 24 to 36 hours on her meds. Is this behavoir normal if the meds are taken as prescribed? is this normal if no meds are taken, or is it as I suspect the meds are being abused?  

 Your wife's behavior screams addict. If she is hiding her meds  you really don't know  what she is on. If she has that horrid experience with narcotics abuse has she ever considered Narcotics Anonymous or you Alanon or Naranon?  Dr's  give out narcotics like candy if you  complain about the right symptom set.  I think they spend about 20 minutes of their 8 yrs of school on addiction.  If she is abusing   prescription  medications   you might consider calling therapists/counciling centers  and finding someone  experienced with interventions. They  can sometimes be like a  bucket of ice water on someones  face  and  lead them to seeking help.  Good luck i wish I had a real answer

Fasthub

I feel for you. My husband and I went through a long spell with alcohol.  It can be a real strain.  I felt the same way about our children.  That is what they are, children.  Please keep an eye out for your daughter. 

On a positive note, my husband got his drinking under control and life is much better.

Good Luck

Fasthub,

That is not normal behavior for someone using ADHD medications.  It definetley seems as thought she is abusing her meds.  I don't know where you heard that someone using ADHD meds hides their meds.  I certainly don't.  If you suspect abuse as your message indicates I would let her physician know.  Abusing the meds is not going to solve any of her problems.  It sounds to me like you could use some family and individual counseling.

-Gettingagrip-