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Hi April,
My son is also 7. He is ADHD co-morbid with ODD.  He has been suspended over & over...so much I decided to Homeschool him.  Funny thing is, when I decided to HS, I got a voicemail saying my son had 5 more days of suspension...then the NEXT DAY, I get paperwork that the Principal has requested he be suspended.  I called her supervisor to ask what could have happened in such a short time period, especially with my son not being there?!  Long/short- the supervisor said that if i'm HS, then he would life the suspension.  When the paperwork came in, it said that if I try to enroll my son, the expulsion will need to be reviewed again.  I say all this to say, you are not alone.  You are doing all you can do.  I don't know if HS is an optn for you, but if it helps, I am a single parent who works during the day....and BROKE with no child support.  Your life can't possible be worse than that!    I wish I had "the" answer for you April, I can say that we can't beat ADHD out of a child.  It sounds like you are doing a great job. Your son is very lucky! 

michelle

Hello

Bailey just turned 7 and has been expelled from school three times so far this school  year.  He has been on medication ( strattera) for his ADHD for the past year or so.  Bailey has always had a problem keeping his hands to himself, or playing too rough with other kids. The school says  " student behavior is primarily a parental responsiblity". What can I do when he is at school to control his behavior? I am currently being sued by the school district for something my son did while he was at school. He was playing too rough with another boy on the playground equipment and the boy fell and broke his hip. The school wants me to pay all the medical costs for the other little boy. Now when my son is at home and we see him get a little outta control we intervein and tell him to settle down and read a book for a little while.  Bailey attends counsling every week for this. I dont know what to do for my son? What are his rights ? Any help any one can give me would be great.

thanks

april

April my 6 year got expelled teh other week, I can not homeschool..I need to work during the day. I wrote a letter to the school demanding my sons rights not be violated. He is ADHD and by law is protected, the school is correct that behavior is primarly the parents issue..but they need to make arrangments to help you so he can go to school. I would call for a meeting with the school counselor, princ, soecial ed teacher and his normal teacher and request a IEP to help redirect his behavior yesterday we did that for my son and basically his failing scholl is based on his behavior so the IEP was full of how to improve the behavor. Try that and see if that works, also you can talk to a lawyer and bring him to the meeting and if that doesnt work write to the local newspaper and tell them the your adhd child was expelled from school based on his condition... schools hate that

Good luck and god bless

Hi April,

Like Michelle, I homeschool and though I wanted to do this before my son was born, he showed the interest in attending public school.  He is very social.  And no he cannot keep his hands to himself and he gets exurberant so he was suspended continuously when he was in school.  Which in total would be about two years out of six.  I spent more time walking back and forth to school.  For the two years he attended they sent him home at least weekly.  It was easy to decide to withdraw permanently yet only this last time did my son voice a desire not to go back.  Our past attempt ended in a letter from the principal saying he would not pass the year if his behavior didn't improve.  His marks were actually good.  He was dealy with a couple of kids who enjoyed pushing his buttons and they knew where they were.  He was suicidal near the end of it.  Homeschool can really give these kids a chance with their self esteem.  I honestly do not have any faith in the school system to help our kids.

Homeschooling is simply what works for us, but I wanted to let you know that others have been where you are at.  I am empathetic. 

Lynn

Hello

I cant home school. Im going in for yet another meeting at the school today. Hopefully we will figure something out this time. It upsets me cause we moved to the Ca and they have  no special schools just for ADHD kids. Back home in Pa they have a special school. Then none of us would have to worry about homeschooling our kids. I will continue to do research and find out what baileys rights are. thanks so much for your help.

 

april

I would like to ask... Where were the teachers when your son accidentaly hurt that other child?  It would not have happened if the teachers were paying attention! I would definatly get a lawyer! and I would turn right around and sue the school for violating your sons rights! He is considered by law to have a learning disability and therefore the school is responsible to make sure they do everything to help him in every way!

WHAT IS WRONG WITH OUR SCHOOL SYSTEMS!!!

you can go to no child left behind, I.D.E.A, of 504 plan that scholud give you some information also search for department of education California nad that should give you tons of infoCheck this out: My son was put of 9 daycares in 2 years... I eventually got some one at home they both quit.....He is now 7 years old... the perfect little boy and is having a grand time in 2nd grade..... what I did was: change his diet; discipline; consistency in what I say and do..... I am particular concern about Kelty 76 situation.. do u have an attorney.. the nerve of at that school.. my son's school tried that mess.... and I hired a parent advocate.. who put them in check.. now we get the red carpet treatment... it is so important to fight and advocate for our children, it will not be easy.. I can tell you, it worth every penny i spent, every tear drops, hugs, yelling, smiling, frustration, phone calls... i can honestly look back and said... this is just the beginning . I have a lot of info on childrens rights from when I was having a lot of problems with my son and daughter I would gladly fax it to anyone in need of this info. Maria

I went through so much when my son was 7 years old when it came to his safety and that of other children in his presence. Now he is 13 and controls himself very well. Please take this from one friend to another, but it is mainly the parents responsibility for their child's actions. I took control of the situation and researched my son's brain, how it is wired and the results were astounding. I learned new parenting techniques just for him and within a year he changed immensely. He no longer hurts other kids, even though it was never intentional, he also learned to sit still and concentrate while in school, all without the use of meds. I wrote a little in the topic titled ADHD/A Blessing In Disguise.

Best Wishes, michelle33

Hello

I dont know where the teachers were when the accident happened on the playground. Bailey and two other little boys were playing a game they called "pirates". The other little boy pushed bailey off the playground equipment twice and it was baileys turn to push the little boy off. Well he did and when the boy landed he broke his hip. Thank god I  have home owners insurance, they are going to cover the costs if the court desides it was bailey's fault. We havent gotton an attorney yet. Were just trying to work things out ourselves with the school. Thanks for the info dcarsen.

April