Adhd exacerbated after pregnancy | ADHD Information

I have 2 children ages 2 and 1.  I have never been diagnosed with actual ADHD, but I know that I have had it my whole life.  I have been diagnosed with both anxiety and depression, but I now know that the underlying problem has been ADHD.  For a while,  I was finally able to get my life and emotions organized until the birth of my first child.  When he was born I began to become emotionally unraveled and disorganized again. I got pregnant again when he was 7 months old.  I had 2 children in under 16 months.  After child # 2 was born  my emotions and life really went out of whack.  He is now 16 months old, and I feel completely overwhelmed, like I am being sucked into a black hole.  I am also a stay-at-home mom, so I am bored bored bored.  I feel like I am more disorganized and emotional than ever before.  I have a short fuse, impatient, throw "tantrums", can't seem to stick to a task, do a million things at once, forgetful.  I have a general feeling of being out of control.  My symtoms are worse than ever before.  I would like to seek help, but I do not want to take medication, and I am determined to find a good therapist/life coach.  I have seen a few therapist in the past that did not help me.  If there are any other moms with ADHD out there, please let me know how you manage.  I really need some support. 

hi everyone, crazymommy

im 28yrs old and have just been dignosed with adhd a few weeks back, they have put me on a low dosage of concerta 18mgs per day for 3 day for me to get use to it them im going on 36mg on the 4th day etc... today ive taken my ist pill and feel much the same, i know its going to take time to reach my dose but i will get there

ive got 5 boys and 3 of them have adhd also, my kids are 9,6,3,19mths,6mths

i have also had two babies close together and havnt felt like you do!
i think rae70 is right and it might be post natal depression that youve got on top of your other things, i know its hard for you hun as im in the same boat as you, adhd and having small children does take its toll.

you sound just like me hun, you need to get out hard i know with two small babies but you have too.

the more you sit in the more depressed your'e gonna feel

where abouts do you live?

have you gone to baby groups etc?...

i know what your thinking, that you havnt got time to pass wind let alone go to one of them but you might find that meeting people and making new friends will help abit, i just wished i live near you to lend a hand, please keep in touch with me hun x

 

Has any one tried Marshall Arts I have been told wonderful for these kids also.?RSHN

crazymommy, perhaps also you should look into Post Natal Depression and Psychosis.  This is a very real problem and every new Mum should be informed on it.  I was not and went through some really scarey patches after my children were born.

I also find any hormonal change such as PMT causes these same mood alterations.

Natural homornes have worked wonders and also Natropathy works a treat for my sister.

 

Hello,

I am an ADHD Mom with twin girls who is pregnant again and I run a daycare out of my home..  So you can imagine the chaos around me.  LOL.   I am taking ritilan and have found that it helps me....  But besides that I can understand what you are feeling...  I have found that it all can get so overwhelming...  So I have made a plan for myself...  I set realistic goals for the day...  And I try not to get down on myself when I dont finish all my list...  I jusst remind myself that even though having a clean house and everything orgainzed is wonderful,  spending time with the kids having fun not yelling and stressing is so much better for everyone especially me.   I have also found talking to other people who have the same problems as I doesnt make me feel so alone.  

I'm not a mom, but I know a place where you can talk to some other moms with ADHD! Try this:

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-bhgenadd?redirCnt=1

Hi slayer,

Thanks for the support--  I guess having 2 kids is not as stressful as having 5!!!  I do have friends, but I don't call them as often as I should.  It's because I don't want to annoy them too much.  There is a Mom's club in my area, but I don't feel like I would fit in.  I am not the perfectly groomed housewife and mother, and I don't like to sit around and talk about my kids all day.  I was diagnosed with post-partum depression right after my 2nd son was born, and I was taking medication for a while.  Now I am trying to find an alternative to medication.  I think I am starting to drive my husband and children crazy with my negative attitude and emotional outbursts.  The ADHD in me makes it difficult to stick with something for a long period of time (such as exercise, meds, etc....) 

I am also a sahm of little kids, although not as close in age as yours. I had a very hard time after my son was born and was so worn out and irritable. Things got better after I started getting some more sleep.

Things that helped me start feeling better are- getting out of the house every single day,joining a moms club (I'm living proof that not all the members are groomed & perfect), sending my oldest child to moms's day out at a local church one morning a week (once she turned 2), joining a playgroup etc. Also, figure out what you like to do, and sign up for a mommy/toddler class in it- it gets you out of the house and maybe you can meet other moms with similar interests (for ex, a toddler art class at the local kids museum or the like)

I dont know what makes you feel good. What makes me feel good/alive/well is being outdoors or exercising. So, I try to go outdoors in some form every single day. Think about what would help you, and whether you could somehow fit it into your life as a sahm.

I would reccomend getting reevaluated for post partum depression. It can wreak absolute havoc on you in so many ways. And if you have to have meds to deal with it, maybe its not such a bad thing to take them until the kids are a little older. Infants and toddlers are so difficult, really they are! And once they hit preschool age, things are a little easier on us at home moms.

Best of luck.