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i'm wondering, if there are any people who are dating and you
BOTH have ADHD, do you find that it makes things easier or
worse?

i guess it must be worse, as i have yet to see
www.ADHDsingles.com

but hey i could be wrong

well, actually both my husband and I have ADD....i'd say it makes us closer because we understand each other in ways other people cannot.

sometimes i feel like no one in the outside world understands me and i'm having a BAD ad/hd day, and yet i know i can come and kick my feet up with my hubby cuz he knows, and he understands.....

and I understand him, he has a hard time explaining things and expressing himself sometimes, and I always know exactly what he is saying, even though other "normal" people have misunderstood him and have gotten upset with him....

the list goes on and on, and there are DEFINITE bad days ever so often, but I would have to say that i would not be with anyone else other than someone who could understand my symptoms as well as he can, cuz he is on the inside with me looking out of my little world.....where as the rest of the normal world would never be able to understand cuz they are on the outside looking it...  we live in our own little world and we love it!!

My hubby and I both have ADD.  He has never been actually diagnosed, but he has a bad case of it in my opinion.  I think we can understand each others short comings a little better and we can laugh about it together.  He will always say, "Don't let me forget to...".  I always reply, "Like I am going to remember".  Sounds stupid but I guess it does help to atleast laugh at yourself...

One bad thing however I forgot to mention:  My husband and I had a HECK of a whorlwind romance!!!  We met in December, by the following April, we were married!!  We had to elope, cuz no one thought we should get married.  We went through LOTs of financial issues, also!

It's just a HECK of a coincidence that my husband and I get along as well as we do, cuz I think had we both been on medication at the time and had popped our heads out of our little ad/hd-spring-birds-in-love-cloud we may not have decided to get married the way we did.  Our marriage could just have easily turned into a disaster, if we let it!!! 

[QUOTE=asm119]My hubby and I both have ADD.  He has never been actually diagnosed, but he has a bad case of it in my opinion.  I think we can understand each others short comings a little better and we can laugh about it together.  He will always say, "Don't let me forget to...".  I always reply, "Like I am going to remember".  Sounds stupid but I guess it does help to atleast laugh at yourself...[/QUOTE]

i definetly agree with you.  i read alot about couples with an AD/HDer and a non ad/hder and I don't think sometimes that non ad/hders can really understand what an ad/hder goes through in his mind.  like, if I was a non ad/hder, i would wonder, "WHAT IS SO HARD ABOUT THROWING TRASH IN THE TRASH CAN IN THE KITCHEN???" after my husband has finished cooking.  or maybe "WHY DOESN'T HE JUST GET UP AND DO IT??" or "WHY IS HE JUST SAYING WHAT HE IS SAYING TO ME?  DID HE REALLY MEAN WHAT HE SAID?  OR DID HE JUST BLURT IT OUT??"....

And I am sure that there are thoughts that would run through my husband's mind about me, and why I don't just keep the house clean?  or why don't I just stop lazing around all day and just get up and do something already??

but my husband and I never get into arguments over these things, and we never even have to discuss it much cuz we both just already know and understand.  I already know that there are some quirks that ad/hder have hard times getting over, and I feel that if I was married to a NON ad/hder, then we would have problems and issues that my husband and I do not have.

 

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My new husband has ADD in my opinion.  He hyperfocuses on his cars and he is very disorganized.  But he likes things his way and doens't want to get treated for it. That is fine with me.  He laughs at me and my symptoms.  I don't annoy him at all.  He likes it that I am forgetful.  I don't remember that I was mad at him a second ago.   

I was divorced a few years ago and my exhusband was not ADD.  He was very organized and was basically annoyed with my problems of disorganization.  He saw it as me not caring.  I did care, I just didnt' notice many things that were in disarray around me. 

I would go for the ADD match.  But I did know one couple that I am sure both has ADD.  Their house was so messy you literally had to wade through the clothes and mess to find the couch, so it can be bad sometimes!!