My husband and i have been married for almost 4 years.  We think he has a touch of ADD, and i know i have it, i have been on medication in the past.  we been through a lot, a 5 month whorlwind romance, ending with a secret eloping; neither of our parents knew about it/ we were both 20 years old.  our parents would not support or relationship/ would not help with a wedding/ felt that we were not "ready".

Well, they since have had no choice but to change their attitudes because we have been so much terribleness together and came out ever so much more tightly bonded to each other that it could be nothing else other than a blessing of God.  We have a very good relationship, even through 2 car repo's, 2 evictions, and having to go live with my parents twice. (imagine what our credit report looks like, among these are hosts of unpaid phone bills, utility bills, bounced checks, and other whatnots that have went unpaid over the years.) We have moved 5 times in 2 years.

Our credit is pretty much shot to hell, and we live in an old drafty, extremely cold in the winter, and hard to keep warm old house.  The windows and doors let air, and the floor is very old and wooden, with cracks so air comes up there.  We have been getting along ok here for the past year, because our landlord is so flexible with the low rent payments, but here is the catch..:

I'm recently got pregnant.  we can't stay here with a little baby, not in the winter time.  My husband does all the cooking and has trouble keeping the kitchen clean, inviting unsanitary pests.  The electric is turned on in our landlords name, because we have this huge unpaid bill with the electric company, and they won't turn it own for us.  We want to be able to get a new better place, in our name, but how?  Bankruptcy?  We are lost, we want to bring our child into a stable world...... help!!!!!!!!!!

pregnant and confused

i'm not sure that going to live with our parents is something that we could consider right now.  We lived with my parents twice before, and they have very small quarters, there was not enough room for us before, and it would be absolutely miserable when you factor in the baby.  Think we would be better off staying where we are now and somehow making due.

And let's just say, that there are some STRONG adhd tendencies running on my husband's side of the family!!!!  My mother-in-law, has moved her and her 80 something year old husband and her youngest 2 teenage sons about 7 or 8 times within the last 3 years.  My husband said that he and his 5 brothers and sister grew up this way, and have always moved around all his childhood.  Even in our unstable state, we are still in more of a solid situation on our own than with her............

Well, me and my husband are considering some credit counseling and we are planning to visit social services.....we will see what happens...

thanx