Any other ’stay at home’ moms ? | ADHD Information
In my dream world, I am that perfect stay-at-home-mom who bakes the perfect cookies and has the perfect garden and the perfect house. It would be my ultimate boss-free, hands-on job.To combat that stuck-in-the-house feeling, I would volunteer somewhere on the weekend, or take night courses in subjects that interest me. I would also need a husband with a job to support all this.
*sigh* This is why it is called a dream world. I don't even have kids yet, or even a ring on my finger for that matter.
I love the replies I get on this board...
Parenthood is a lot of fun, isnt it? I sure wish I had gotten the decorating gene! I cant seem to make things go together no matter how hard I try. Cant seem to match things. But, it does look like it would be a lot of fun. I'm more with you guys that are like- hey, did I do the laundry?? hee hee
I love the parrot story. Every time I see one now I'll think of Tequila! On a more serious note, Latina, I am very sorry to hear about your loss. I'm glad you have found comfort (and fun) in your pet.[QUOTE=chocoholic]Just wondering if there were any other stay at home moms out there. I have a daughter (preschool)and a baby son and have been at home since the oldest was born. I am a stay at home mom.
How do you like it? In what ways do you find your add helpful or a hindrance? Do any of your kids have add? I love it...sometimes I do some interior jobs..but it is mostly a hobby. My daughter has ADHD. I think my ADHD sometimes keeps me from getting things done...but the upside is that I am very creative so our house looks like it was from a magazine....and I am constantly changing towels and placemats and lighting candles so when my husband gets home he likes the house and does not get tired of comming home....I am a stay at home mom have been for years I worked for a short time after we were hit by a drunk driver then it didn't last due to back problems and surgery. I don't miss a wink with them sometimes it gets on my nerves when they wreck the house or when my daughter hides her food she didn't want to eat but I wouldn't have it any other way.
They keep me busy all the time even when they sleep I just have to go in and check on them make sure they are covered or have a pillow whatever I can think of to just look in on them. My husband always told me that god put my daughter here just for me. I found that he was so right tonight. I was feeling sad don't know why went to check on the kids she woke just to give me a hug it felt great. I'm so lucky to have both my kids they are just so GREAT I would say to all moms that staying at home is the best job I could ever have in life. It's such a hard job but it has just to much more to offer me then a real job ever could. MariaYes I am home most of the time and I have two children. My son is 7 and daughter just turned 3. I did not work at all until my daughter was 2. I love being home. I am fortunate to have a part time job where my hours are very flexible.
What I love about staying home with my kids---
Having great fun and running through the house playing hide and seek.
Spending all day doing nothing but playing and enjoying each other.
I do not miss any part of their lives. That is important to me!
I am very creative and love doing activities with them.
What is REALLY hard having ADHD and staying home--
MY HUSBAND 
When he walks in the door and the house looks like an ADD bomb went off (which it did) and he gets upset I still am in my PJs. I get the question....what did you do today? I know opposites attract and my husband is so neat and organized. He just doesn't understand how much fun we have!
It gets lonely sometimes. I have other friends that stay at home. We all are doing the same things, feeding, chasing, and playing with our children. It is hard to have adult conversations.
Laundry--Keeping the house neat (HA! HA!)
I can't blame having to work on why I did not go to the store!
No signs of ADD in my kids. They find my keys for me or help me remember why we went to the store! My son has tons of energy but his teachers say he is very focused in school. AMAZING!
It has been fun reading your messages. I am excited to join this group! I think we can all learn from each other.
I am a stay at home mom. I have been on both sides. I initially stayed home for the first 11 months of my first born and then went back to work . Became a SAHM again when the 2nd born was 10 months because we could finally afford for me to do that.
Now I am busier than ever for example, car pools sometimes keep me in the car up to 3 1/2 hrs a day.
I didn't realize that I might have ADD until my 2 year old started preschool this past year. All of a sudden I had TIME for me. If I didn't have a plan or a list of things to do, I would just vegetate
trying to figure out what
to do. With so many things that I want to do in so little time, I
usually end up wasting about an hour of that precious solitary time by
doing wasteful things like going to the book store, coffee shop, or an
art store.Lists are the key to staying focused and staying on task.
I love the opportunity that I have to raise my children rather than handing them over to somenone else to raise. One day the children will be grown so I live for this moment and try to be there for them as much as possible.
< =""> I have been on both sides...I stayed at home when my girls, now 7 and 8 were young....went to work full time for about 9 months when they were 5 and 6....hated it but we have just bought a bigger house and i felt like I needed to contribute financially.....then surprise I got pregnant with our son, now almost three, so I quit when he was born, and we downsized....Best decision ever! Plus, I am the wost house keeper anyway and who needs that much house to clean..So now I work at home partime...I am out of the house about 5 0r 6 hours a week for meetings....which I try to schedule while my little guy is at pre-school...It is a great balance for me...I volunteer at my kid's school, coach soccer and teach an art class at their school......( I obviously did not outgrow my hyperacitveness) I am thankful for it now....Channelling it to your kids and their world is much easier than channelling it to Laundry! hahaha....I am lucky my husband sees the value in what I do with the kids and doesnt' mind too much that he is the main housekeeper.Just wondering if there were any other stay at home moms out there. I have a daughter (preschool)and a baby son and have been at home since the oldest was born.
How do you like it? In what ways do you find your add helpful or a hindrance? Do any of your kids have add?
I like it pretty well- make my own hours and decisions, and being around little kids always keeps my mind busy (why is the sky blue mommy? etc). Sometimes I get frustrated with the tantrums or restless when they're both sick and we have to stay in the house. But, overall, we have a great time.
Dont know if either kid has add, but so far it seems unlikely that my daughter does. She's neither particularly inattentive or physically active. My son, on the other hand, moves and babbles nonstop, so we'll see!
Oh Chocoholic, How I wish I was in your place. I was a stay at home Mom for 2 months, 24 yrs ago. That was before I knew ADD was what I had and thought I would somehow "out grow it". Never did and sadly we lost our son to S.I.D.S at 2 months. No one we knew had kids and even though I felt like I was a misfit, I haden't a clue at Motherhood!
And I was told "it just comes natural".
I later decieded I wasn't cut to be a regular Mommy. Went to work, job hopped alot. Than I felt like I needed to "Mother something" A yr. later, my hubby and I bought a parrot. That seemed to be the "in" pet.That was over 22 yrs ago. She was 8 mos. when we got her. She has the intelligence of a 3 yr. old, should live 80 to 100 yrs.( yes you read that right) and is so attached to me that to her I am her mom! But she will remain a 3 yr. old for life! She is fairly large, a yellow Crown Amazon Parrot named Tequila.We work together at Clearwater Beach in Florida, weather permiting, for tips for pictures taken with the tourists. She LOVES pple! And we do have some tricks that we do.She is almost 23. I love her like a child and would pertect her w/my life! BUT I STILL HAVE TO FIND A REAL JOB THAT I CAN RELY ON!
I'll stop rambling. What I'm trying to say is enjoy being a stay at home mom! I've discovered I'm good w/kids, but even if I wanted to become a mom, the lifestyle we choose won't allow it. We can't have kids in our sub-division, I'm to old, and the house we have is the house of our dreams(O.M.G......expensive)! Your lucky you can stay at home. So many pple we know have kids, than put tham in daycare! I think now I would love to stay home w/the kids!Attempt to tell why the sky is blue, handle temper tantrams and sickness. Oh YES! Make MY own hrs.
My hubby swears both Tequila and I have ADD and dyslexia. Maybe thats why we love and understand each other soooo much! I know you wanted the opinion of a "real Mom", but all I can say is enjoy the fact you can actually be w/your kids! (sorry such a long post, you know what happends when us ADD/ADHD'ers get on a roll!
Hi Chocoholic and all,
I am a SAHM, and I have 3 adorable, smart , angelic little girls 6, 5, & 2. I must say that I love it. We play, plant, learn, and since I've been on straterra, we clean. For a long time I thought I was just stressed, and lazy. I couldnt complete tasks, I would wake up every morning with a plan, and would not be able to follow through. I would forget important things, I lost my keys everyday, (blaming the kids), but when I could not find any of my bras, I knew something was wrong. That was the last day of procrastination. I took every online quiz there was and called the doctor. Now i must say, before I could afford to stay home I worked a job, as a corporate paralegal, I had to read volumes of material, but I did it quickly because I hated to do it. I was great at my job, I was pretty organized. But I could not understand why I could not keep my house in order. Behind on laundry, dusting, dishes, (dishwasher down) everything, it was just too hard to organize all those clothes, and SOKCS, I hated it. All my friends had these nice clean houses, and seemed to be so organized, Why cant I do that, I'm not so different? I always asked myself. These add habits were rubbing off on the children and I could see them behaving like me. I dont want that. I am changing and I am glad that I have hind sight to see what I have done and what I can do to keep them from forming bad habits. I am just glad this site is here for me to vent. By the way, I am loving the appetite loss.
Thanks for listening!