No sex, deep lows | ADHD Information
Gettingagrip is right... I didn't really think about it when I read your post, but yeah, incredible highs and lows are more characteristic of bipolar or other mood disorder than ADHD. I experience good days and bad days myself, but I wouldn't go so far as to say I have "highs and lows". I get frustrated with things sometimes, and I feel depressed about my career situation, but I think it is all circumstancial.I would strongly recommend seeing a counsellor.
I'd recommend, as actress Teri Hatcher recently put it, "the help of some fabulous electronics". The poor girl apparently hasn't had sex in 4 years.
If it is the emotional connection, more so than physical gratification you are after, then maybe you should seek the help of a counsellor. Having sex with someone simply to pull yourself out of a "low" is going to cause far more harm than good.
[QUOTE=sussie]Another question: How do you balance the incredible highs and lows you expreience?
This sounds alot more like bipolar than ADHD. Many people with bipolar are diagnosed with ADHD because many of the symptoms are the same. You can actually have both disorders together also. If I were you I would look into the symptoms of bipolar and talk to your health care professional.
gettingagrip38399.5228703704Thanks to everyone who posted re:high sex drive. It seems the majority
do admit to a high sex drive. Whether that is 'normal' for the ADHDer is
still a matter of research, I guess. Another question: How do you
balance the incredible highs and lows you expreience? Cannot take
meds... When you are in the 'low' how do you pull yourself out of it?? Sex
helps the most but can't have it as much as would like. Help me find a
balance.I have bipolar and ADHD. I felt that same want to have sex to pull you out of a low before I got on meds to treat the bipolar. It's a whole different world now, I don't have that want or feeling to do anything that would harm myself. I don't even go out drinking anymore. Anyway I think getting a grip is on the right track w/you. Talk with your psycoligist. Consoling is only going to help so much without getting on the proper meds first! At least that was the case with me!!
Ahhhh ... trying to figure out whether you have ADHD, or bipolar disorder, or both. I've been going through that with my doctors, psychiatrist, and therapist for almost a year.
sussie, when I first read your post, I thought it sounded more bipolar than ADHD. All of my professionals are having a hard time deciding my medications because I have numerous problems. I was diagnosed with panic disorder 20 years ago and then obsessive-compulsive disorder. 10 years ago, we realized I had clinical depression, so I've been taking medications for all of these.
More recently, I've experienced hypo-manic episodes; nothing too outrageous, except my life is pretty bad. I cannot sleep and often don't get to bed before 3, 4, 5 AM. My sex drive is extremely high, but I have no man! I have totally screwed up my and my husband's (separated for over 3 years and soon to be my ex) finances and we are broke. I have other bipolar symptoms also.
Then, my therapist started thinking I might also have ADHD. I am totally disorganized and never finish anything. I can't get a job. I haven't worked full-time in almost 3 years. I can't concentrate on paperwork and switch from one task to another to another ... never getting anything done. Etc, etc, etc ... no meds have helped yet with either the bipolar or ADHD, but we're just starting. My lows over the last year have been so low, suicide has been a big concern.
I was taking Effexor for depression and started to taper off. When I got to a low dosage, my suicidal thoughts were horrible. So, I am back on the Effexor. I was taking Trileptal, which my neurologist put me on because I have facial nerve pain (a totally different problem). The Trileptal was supposed to elevate my mood also, but I've stopped it and have seen no difference.
So now, I need a new medication for my facial neuralgia because that is back every day, and we need to experiment with meds for bipolar and ADHD. What fun!
Thanks again everyone for the feedback. I am getting counseling and itseems to be helping.
Sussie
No sex, deep lows? Yeah, sounds like my first marriage...
Mark -
I more or less just want to vent a little about my current sex situation. Idef. feel like I am in a low right now, and I havent had sex in over a year,
but the point is that I have had highs and lows off and on throughout the
past year. I think sometimes the not having sex thing is a result of ADHD
and feeling inadiquite(sp??) around women. Even worse I am have passed
the age to just play it off for being drunk or nervous. At 21 years old I feel
like my personality has peaked and I need to do something to make
myself appealing.
Drunk quote of the month. "WITH MY PERSONALITY, IF I WAS 6'1, I'D BE A
COOL MOTHERF@#$%&."
I am 5'6 and between that and people always telling me that I make
random off topic comments, and that i am only able to talk to girls when
I'm drunk, but then usualy get too drunk to take them home, I think
something needs to change.
Telling myself that I just haven't found the right one yet, or dwelling on
whether I missed my opportunity by breaking up w/ the last one, just isnt
seeming like it'll hold up anymore.
I'm not a bad looking guy (maybe a little receading hair line), but I'm def
not some goober who sits inside all day.
sorry, had to vent. if anyone has some advice, lemme' have it
tommyI guess it just amazes me which guys are getting layed every night, and
then a guy like myself cant find anything.
Hmmm - doesnt necessarily mean its you!
Perhaps your partner doesnt really do it for you - or is a bit off in sex somehow.
SEx is a very weird thing in a relationship. Bonking strangers sometimes can be easier than a long term partner. Because there is no history.
An argument a month ago could pop into your head - mid sex and you like 'turn off'.
Dont ask me - I am one of the most annoying wives in history - A teaser that doesnt go through with it - hmmm doesnt get much worse than that
hubby deserves a medal.
I dont know why - when it comes to the crunch - I go been there done that - What now! LMAO
That in itself is ADHD like.
Rae7038451.7435648148Hmm I don't know about myself..it seems like I have a low sex drive only because I don't think about the subject at all. My mind is changing channels like a broken remote control with a satellite dish. When I do start thinking about it strongly, the homrones do exist.[QUOTE=Reizende] Hmm I don't know about myself..it seems like I have a low sex drive only because I don't think about the subject at all. My mind is changing channels like a broken remote control with a satellite dish. When I do start thinking about it strongly, the homrones do exist.[/QUOTE]Reizende, in a previous post, you stated you believe you're ADD, with no hyper (except at new functions, affairs [fairs?> things like that, I think). Any way, I was under the impression that a mind "changing channels like a broken remote control" is more a symptom of ADHHHHD, than ADD. :) BTW, good analogy...I can definitely can relate to it.
I've always been a very sensual and sexual person. Aside from self-medicating for many years with sex (and alcohol & drugs) at a time I was not formally diagnosed ~ and was fortunate it was before 'free' sex was such risk ~ I also have a very low sex drive now and have given up even thinking about it. Just be careful, tho, and don't whet my appetite.
It's like the old saying, "What you don't have, you don't miss." (Don't know how old that saying really is, but it sure does apply to me!)
I do love hugs tho!
[QUOTE=GypsyWomyn]Reizende, in a previous post, you stated you believe you're ADD, with no hyper (except at new functions, affairs [fairs?> things like that, I think). Any way, I was under the impression that a mind "changing channels like a broken remote control" is more a symptom of ADHHHHD, than ADD. :) BTW, good analogy...I can definitely can relate to it.
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Well, I kind of thought the constant changing channels in my brain was just the constant flowing daydreams and such. The changing of thoughts in my mind doesn't make me jump up and down and be hyper per se..but I can guarantee you anything that I do that would cause me to differ from my regular schedule makes me bounce off walls.