Teacher is Comparing! Is this right? | ADHD Information

I just do NOT get my son's teacher. She put on the bottom of his 'smiley' sheet this: "Some of the children complimented Paul on not talking so much." What in the world is she thinking? I mean: am "I" making too much outta this? See...he reached his goal that day and she acted as though this was a 'good' thing that the 'other' children did this. I disagree because I feel that it puts my son MORE under a microscope than he already is. Feedback please.

Yes my sons teacher said the same thing to me last year - i was like - WTF - but just ignorned it as best as possible.

My son did not do well last year and did not like that teacher.  She had her favorites and she was a very labelling type of person.

You wont change the teacher, the best you can do is just accept her strange ways - if they are not too distructive - and check out the teachers for next year and ask the one that you like best if that teacher will take on your kid.

I did this and it is great - he has turned around in a lot of areas.

Some teachers just are not emotionally able to deal with our kids unfortunately. 

I agree what a rude teacher. We are the ones helping them. They don't really see what they lack in because they are teaching to the class.Our school teachers play favorites. Small countrey school. Can only afford to live here.Check out the teachers for next grade and ask for one in ard meeting. I did and much better. His teacher has a ADHD kid.Next year our son 4th grade  and will have both teachers. He isn't on this leval as far as cocerned. He takes Sdaa instead of our Taks test.Ask in ard also.rshnRSHN38401.6536689815oh i sooo hear you. My sons teacher sent home a note attached to his weekly homework it said. Please do not give jared answers I Know what he is capable of and he is not benifiting from your giving him the answers..... UM hello .. i had to march down there with the note request a meeting and tell her. jared has adhd he is easily distracted in class with 19 other studants in the room at home he has more time and less distraction therefor he does better on homework.. and who does she think she is that she would know his what he is capable of after just a few months of having him in her class.. Ive raised him all of his LIFE!! [QUOTE=jaredsmom]oh i sooo hear you. My sons teacher sent home a note attached to his weekly homework it said. Please do not give jared answers I Know what he is capable of and he is not benifiting from your giving him the answers..... UM hello .. i had to march down there with the note request a meeting and tell her. jared has adhd he is easily distracted in class with 19 other studants in the room at home he has more time and less distraction therefor he does better on homework.. and who does she think she is that she would know his what he is capable of after just a few months of having him in her class.. Ive raised him all of his LIFE!! [/QUOTE]

That story makes me so mad. Your son's teacher sounds like another one of those people who labels kids as stupid. It's so sad when people underestimate someone who is different. I feel like I've been labeled and underestimated a lot so I can understand how that feels. It makes me mad to see it happen to someone else. Your son is brighter than his teachers give him credit for but I know you didn't need me to tell you that. I hate labels.
My school forgets I have been and know how these kids feel. I just fight more our sons rights.I tell them do it or I will call the state of Texas.Sounds mean but It's his well being I care about.I don't care if they like me or not.I just want him to get what he needs.They are suppose to be there for the kids.A go at your own pace system is what sounds best to me.We have only left our son in school to get Speech and Ot or else homeschooling so he can get what needed.I attended Private schools where kids weren't treated this way.The school staff didn't allow it either.Today we have people that to me are not taught how to work with the special needs population.Your kids will remember what you did to help. Thank god for a fighting MOM who got me what needed.rshnMy step-daughters teacher has put all of the "problem" children at one table, so basically the rest of the class can put and laugh. Whenever the teacher reprimands her the class chimes in, "Yeah, Maddy." Like she needs the whole class to gawk at her. The infuriates me. Also, she gats into trouble for "tattling". Now, I know 6 yrs olds can be relentless with this, but we discussed the difference between telling and tattling. Telling is when she is involved and someone else is causing her to get sidetracked, etc. Tattling is to just get someone into trouble. A few weeks go by and she is still getting into trouble. I asked her what the situation was. She said that a boy at her table would not let her concentrate on her work and she told. The F***ING teacher won't help her. She just punishes her. I had a talk with the teacher and she said that Maddy can't be her primary focus all day. GIVE ME A BREAK! I would like to now nominate her for "IDIOT TEACHER OF THE YEAR"!