My 4 yr old daughter was just diagnosed with ADHD and ODD on the 15th of Feb.
A typical day at our house envolves at least one temper tantrum where she hits or throws something at me or trashes the house by throwing everything on the floor, her temper tantrums get so bad that I will take my 2 year old and go to my bedroom and close the door so she can't get in to hurt us. She tries to get my 2 year old to jump from the 3rd floor to the second floor knowing it would hurt her or she could die, she says it would be funny.
I don't know what to do I have even considered sending her to my parents to live for awhile but I know that would make the anger worse. I try everything from 123 magic to taking Things away nothing seems to work. My husband and I have spoken to the rest of our family and we get a lot of support from my parents who have gone through this with my oldest brother, however when my husband spoke to his mother about this she turned and blamed me telling me it was all my fault and the way I parent Jasmine. As the days go by I am starting to think maybe it is my fault she's like this. Is there anyone out there who is going thru this? Or does anyone heve any advice?
you are not a bad mother. My 5 yr old son was diagnosed 1 yr ago with ADHD. My inlaws are still convinced that it is my parenting. We cannot go out in public and I get a phone call from his teacher about once a month to pick him up because he is out of control. We have tried different stimulants like Adderall,Ritalin and Focalin . All of these meds. made him worse, for now he is on a mood stabilizer called Lamictal that seems to be working . He is still hyper but his tantrums no longer last for hours. I know it is overwhelming !!! you are not alone.
You are not a bad mother. Have you tried counseling yet? This may help and what i do I read books about the subject to help. Motherhood is not easy especially with challenges we all have. I loose my cool a lot and feel bad later then re-coup with a plan. I am gratful I have only one, so no sibling rivelery. (mis-pelled sorry). I am considering family counseling myself while my daughter is young (5) my husband would benefit as well for he has adult ADD and she copies dad sometimes. Talk to your Pediatrition. Good luck
We have only been to the one doctor so far, we are considering meds and we see him again on the 9th of March to go over more options and to let the doctor know what we have decided on what medication we think will best suit our daughter and our family. We don't want this to take over our family completly, but it will always be a part of it. Hopefully with time it will be just one of those things and we won't always be confronted with it all day, everyday. We know that right now we are only at the beginning of this very long road and even though this road may never end hopefully the pot holes will get smaller as we go.Anthea, You are not a bad mom! Just trying to help your daughter proves you care and that you are a good mom. I would try going to a pediatric pyschiatrist for her because perhaps there is another underlying condition along with the ADHD. The two doctors are usually more than willing to work along with each other. Pediatricians are good but you have to remember that pediatric psych's specialize in dealing with 1. children, 2. behavior conditions, 3. They are aware of ALL of the different meds that are available and can discuss any concerns you may have with them, 4. Can diagnose more than just the ADHD. I would try making an appointment and just going in to talk with them. Good Luck, Keep us posted!Hi, I'm new to the message boards. I have a 7 year old son with adhd and a daughter who is 3. I dont think you should take your daughter literally. Relax.Dont blow things out of poportion I think it is easy for children to feed on your emotions, not purposefully though. Just try to explain to your daughter the rules and discipline the best way you know how, possibly time out, then put it out of your mind. In the long run exaggerating on a childs misbehavior may actually make the child feel like a failure and that they have done something that cannot be fixed.|
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